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Rock your emptiness

“Can you speak about emptiness?” a young woman asked at my talk. As those words came out, she circled her hands in front of her stomach, as if she was rubbing a hollow belly.

“Is it numbness or emptiness that you’re feeling?”
 I asked. A key distinction. Numbness is the result of being overloaded—too much pain, too much information, too much medication. Emptiness is very different.

Her response was poetic. She wasn’t stressed, or heavy about it, she was truly curious about her experience, “I feel this emptiness when I walk through the world, like the wind is blowing right through me.” Ohhh. I know that gusting.

“Well, I could be wrong, and this may sound perverse, but I’m excited for you. Because this…” and I waved my hands around my torso, “THIS is spaciousness. And it’s a powerful thing.”


“Sunyata” is a Sanskrit term for emptiness. It speaks to the concept of not having a “self”, the voidness of being. You could say it’s one of the aims of enlightenment itself, a supremely big deal. But most of us are terrified of going there.

Much of our personal and global (same thing) problems are a result of trying to stuff our emptiness—with food, power, noise, gadgets. We cram our lives with people—virtual, in-person, strangers on screens, so we don’t have to be alone. We’re raised to fill the void. Like little robots. Fill void, fill void.

But what if we rocked our emptiness? Felt the perimeter of ourselves. Relished the silence. Made friends with the peace that’s always waiting for us. What if we got off on the discomfort of our emptiness and let it be creative tension?

Maybe we’re just one mental reframe away from turning our universal emptiness into personal power.

“Because, you’re not empty. You’re full of space,” I said to the girl who was feeling the elements of life moving through her core. “Which means that you can walk around feeling like anything is possible.”

“Ohhh. I like that,” she said. “Empty, but full of possibility.”

SO full.


Help a friend reframe their existential crisis. Press forward. xo

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What’s underneath wishful thinking?

I’ve been in a number of situations where I kept saying, “It’s going to work out, it’s going to work out,” and, it didn’t even come close. I thought it was my deep abiding cosmic faith that kept me hanging in when things were clearly failing, but it was really just a case of slightly gross, awfully sticky, and obviously doomed wishful thinking.

Wishful thinking is tangled up with craving. We want what we want. So we ignore the evidence that we’re very likely not going to get what we want out of a situation. Craving… wishing. Craving… denial. Craving… tolerating. It’s a wishous cycle.

You become excessively tolerant or overly pleasing. And all the while, anxiety about getting what you want is rumbling in your stomach. In a mindful moment you may ask yourself, “Why am I putting up with this shit?!” And then, in all seriousness you’ll tell yourself that it’s a means to an end.

But really… it’s because you’re afraid of the consequences of putting an end to putting up with it. 

Examine the evidence. And as for wishing… wish for the strength to do the right thing.


Sometimes, we need a friend to say, Hey, examine the evidence. If you’re that friend, just press send.

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Don’t worry about being invited back. My Manifesto for Creativity.

Meaningfulness. Reveal myself. Be compassionate. Don’t worry about being invited back. Go there. xo

I jotted this down when I began writing my book. I wanted a manifesto and it had to happen quickly because… I had a book to write.


A sure way to keep your ego in check is to intend to be AS USEFUL AS POSSIBLE.
 If you’re focused on delivering substance, you’ll dial down the glamour. Your offering will be about the lesson you want to impart, and not as much about making yourself look great. Fluff and filler don’t stand a chance if you’re committed to meaningfulness.  

Reveal myself

We know that the best teaching technique is through stories. But opinions aren’t stories. Opinions come from our moral fibre, so it can feel raw to share them. There’s no reveal without risk. And there’s no creativity without being revealing.

Be compassionate

If I ever forget that we’re all in this together, I’m doomed for hypocrisy.

If you can’t deliver your Truth with Love, then you should question why you’re delivering it.

Don’t worry about being invited back

Every time I get on stage I think, Well, don’t worry about being invited back. And I go out and give ‘er. No shrinking. No light under a bushel. If you try to appeal to everyone, you dilute your creativity.

Go there

When you say what we’re all thinking, you set us free.

Liberating the Truth is the highest form of creativity.

All Love,


Charge your fellow Creatives with revealing themselves. Press forward xo

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