What is desire?

An evolutionary impulse.

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Love the necessary hard work. #Truthbomb elaborations


And by “necessary hard work” I do not mean: slogging on something you don’t really want to be doing in the first place. This is not about sucking it up or faking it.

By “necessary hard work” I mean: FIRST you commit to something that lights you up, pulls you forward, truly inspires you — the career, a relationship, a project (and YOU can be that improvement project, by the way.) And then it’s so much easier to embrace the heavy lifting required. When you’re doing the hard work in the context of joy and commitment, you tend to bitch way less about doing what it takes. So! Joy first, then the sweat is a pleasure.

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Thrive While You Strive. (Or at least get there alive.) Q&A Spreecast with Danielle LaPorte & Gunnar Lovelace

Danielle LaPorte and Gunnar Lovelace Q&A Spreecast

(it’s free, of course)

There’s an Entrepreneur’s Code of Camaraderie that binds us to tell other entrepreneurs how to not screw up majorly. Of course, the first thing you learn is that you’re going to screw up. And then you’re going to get it right. Really right. Then once you pull off a few good things in your career, and if your heart is a gold one, then you become obsessively helpful to other creatives and hustlers. When the right questions come from the right person, you become an open book of solicited advice. They can’t shut you up.

Jump cut to Gunnar Lovelace. Founder & CEO of the runaway hit business Thrive Market “the most affordable and socially conscious way to shop and live healthier…together.”; Co-founder of Love Heals, a socially conscious boho-chic jewelry collection selling to 450+ stores; co-launcher of two software companies — both acquired.

Thrive Market is the sexiest business model I’ve seen, related to an issue I’m passionate about — accessible, optimal food. The best way to describe it is Whole Foods, meets Costco, meets Tom’s Shoes. You can read all about its membership program + philanthropy here. Thrive is growing at lightspeed — alliances with the likes of The Clinton Foundation and Environmental Working Group; tens of thousands of market members and climbing.

This means…Gunnar hasn’t really slept in months and every minute is packed with meetings. I just bought my first company (and am strategizing another start-up for 2016), and am working on my next book. So naturally, I suggested that Gunnar and I kick back…all the time in the world…and hang out for the afternoon in LA to film a Spreecast and light up some minds. Entrepreneur’s Code of Camaraderie.

Friday July 10, 2015
1pm PT / 4pm ET

Any question goes — raising money, building teams, staying creative, staying sane. Or say, how to penetrate the consciousness of the mainstreamWe’ll send you a link submit your questions when you RSVP, or you can ask during the live event (It’s easy).


You can watch live, listen on your phone, or get a recorded video/audio of the call if you can’t make it that day. Of course, it’s free.

We’ve got lots to talk about. With you.


Thrive Market is going to give you some of their goodness right away. When you RSVP to the Spreecast you’ll get two months free membership AND 25% off your first grocery order (Thrive delivers USA-wide right now. Canada— it’ll happen someday.) Organic. High quality. Thriving.


Please tell your fellow creatives + good-hearted hustlers to get in on the Spreecast:


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Now THIS is going to be off-the-hook useful. Really looking forward to this Q&A Video Spreecast with @DanielleLaPorte & Gunnar Lovelace CEO @THRIVEmkt July 10, 1pm PT/4pm ET And it’s free. They said any question goes. SIGN UP HERE http://bit.ly/1IxuH2J

I’m sooo ready to “thrive while I strive”. Signed up for Q&A Video Spreecast event with @DanielleLaPorte & Gunnar Lovelace the CEO @THRIVEmkt . Holy entrepreneurial smarts. July 10, 1pm PT/4pm ET And it’s free. REGISTER: http://bit.ly/1IxuH2J

Been burned? Betrayal, denial, and the bloody beauty of it all.

photo credit: Catherine Just

I’ve been betrayed — severely. Thank God. Betrayal is such a defining experience — it lays your heart bare, and that’s a bloody, good thing. Bloody good.

Betrayal shows precisely where you are weak and where you are mighty — in one fell swoop.

Betrayal shows your loyalty.

Betrayal reveals the lies you’ve been telling yourself.

Being betrayed by another person is often (not always,) a reflection of how you were betraying yourself. It’s a lie looking back at you.

This is how it unfolds, starting with the pinnacle scene: You realize you’ve been deceived. <Insert dramatic soundtrack.> Then you realize that you’ve been a fool. <Camera close up on your face as astonishment, rage, and revelation surfaces.> How did I not see this coming? I didn’t want to see this coming. Uh…I kinda knew this was coming.

And that’s when we want to yell Cut! But the plot hasn’t been fully revealed. We need to find out: Why’d you play the fool? Why couldn’t you admit that betrayal was a possibility? Why the denial?

Denial masks our fear.

It might be this simple: You were a fool because you were scared. You played dumb to get what you thought you needed. You kept one eye closed so you wouldn’t have to face the pain of the situation. (How shitty it really was…selling yourself short. How you were using each other to numb out or get ahead [You’re never “really” getting ahead if you’re using someone else to do it.] How badly you wanted to fill the hole in your soul.)

So maybe you get blindsided. Then you see that, maybe, you had a part to play in the betrayal (which in no way whatsoever let’s the betrayer off the hook for being, say, connivingly parasitic, long-term deceptive, or a manipulative ass face.) And then…you see that beneath the surface, you were afraid of something. Zoom in further.

Afraid of what? The answer to that is deeply personal. And that’s where you change your betrayed story. One of the most damaging aspects of being betrayed is that you question your ability to make good choices. When you see what you were scared of, you neutralize the fear, and when you do that, you can regain some trust in yourself.

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