7 tiny big life shifters

This summer was about deeper healing for me. Bod’, psyche, bank account, relationships…relating…creating. Change can be radical but the steps to healing are usually small >> sequential >> interconnected.

This is how some of it came together for me. I:

1. Let go of my “check-my-email-in-the-morning-guilt.” Screw it. I LIKE to check my email first thing in the morning. It doesn’t mean that I’m a distracted workaholic, it means I’m an excited Creative who loves her friends and new friends and what she does with her day…life >> this actually led to LESS email checking throughout the day >> more creative space >> deeper meditation >> clearer ideas.

2. Got a mean blender machine. This led to smoothies >> more complex smoothies with bee pollen and greens and ginger >> less wasted food (cause you can just throw it in the blender!) >> healthier lunches >> feeling great(er) in the evening >> great enough to get my smoothie ass to evening yoga class.

3. Bought a two month pass at local yoga studio. The psychological grip of wanting to get my money’s worth led to doing yoga at least 3x/week >> riding my bike more on the days I couldn’t make it to yoga because I wanted to stretch >> feeling so good about riding + getting my money’s worth, that I committed to an 18-month yoga pass.

4. Committed to doing 100,000 Heart Sutra mantras. I got this, like, “assignment” from a Buddhist Lama who’s been good enough to humor my big Q’s about consciousness. “Do 100,000 Prajnaparamitas and get back to me,” he said. “Is that all ya got for me, Chief?!” Well, only 96,000 to go! Realistically, it will take me a few years to accomplish this, (unless I drop out of society and chant days on end for months.)

It’s RADICAL for me to commit to something and NOT drive for velocity and accomplishment, but rather, devote myself to the journey itself. This has led to a deeper surrender to my creative impulses >> which in turn led to me giving myself permission to write a whole new book two years sooner than I had planned…but not in a rush >> which inspired me to take a lot of the summer off.

5. Started consciously smiling, gently, mostly internally, during meditation and on walks. This is probably the slightest but most effectual lil’ thing I’ve done recently. Smiling effects brain chemistry. It’s a reminder of your true nature. It let’s the light in. It’s shifting me.

Try it. Close your eyes. Feel a smile behind your face. (IMPORTANT: There is no need to bust out in a cheesy, forced grin. That’s bad news.) Just let the corners of your mouth curl gently upwards. On the phone, falling asleep, right now…feel a smile.

6. I read Geneen Roth’s Women Food & God. >> which led to the blender (see #1) >> which led to all sorts of delicious awareness. Roth has written a book of monumental importance in terms of our wellness. Want to convert years and pounds of toxic thinking and self-criticism into freedom-fuel? Read it and set yourself free. It is, as the subtitle puts it, an unexpected path to almost everything.

7. I read Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close, by Jonathan Safran Foer >> which made me consider the more abstract and magical ways to tell happy-painful-true-imagined stories >> which inspired me to recapitulate all of the great stories and ‘isms that my little boy and I have >> in to sitting down and writing our very stories together >> deeper love.

>> healing.

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