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Been burned? Betrayal, denial, and the bloody beauty of it all.

I’ve been betrayed—severely. Thank God. Betrayal is such a defining experience—it lays your heart bare, and that’s a bloody, good thing. Bloody good.

Betrayal shows precisely where you are weak and where you are mighty—in one fell swoop.
Betrayal shows your loyalty.
Betrayal reveals the lies you’ve been telling yourself.

Being betrayed by another person is often (not always,) a reflection of how you were betraying yourself. It’s a lie looking back at you.

This is how it unfolds, starting with the pinnacle scene: You realize you’ve been deceived. <Insert dramatic soundtrack.> Then you realize that you’ve been a fool. <Camera close up on your face as astonishment, rage, and revelation surfaces.> How did I not see this coming? I didn’t want to see this coming. Uh… I kinda knew this was coming.

And that’s when we want to yell Cut! But the plot hasn’t been fully revealed. We need to find out: Why’d you play the fool? Why couldn’t you admit that betrayal was a possibility? Why the denial?

Denial masks our fear.


It might be this simple: You were a fool because you were scared.
You played dumb to get what you thought you needed. You kept one eye closed so you wouldn’t have to face the pain of the situation. (How shitty it really was…selling yourself short. How you were using each other to numb out or get ahead [You’re never “really” getting ahead if you’re using someone else to do it.] How badly you wanted to fill the hole in your soul.)

So maybe you get blindsided. Then you see that, maybe, you had a part to play in the betrayal (which in no way whatsoever lets the betrayer off the hook for being, say, connivingly parasitic, long-term deceptive, or a manipulative ass face.) And then…you see that beneath the surface, you were afraid of something. Zoom in further.

Afraid of what? The answer to that is deeply personal. And that’s where you change your betrayed story. One of the most damaging aspects of being betrayed is that you question your ability to make good choices. When you see what you were scared of, you neutralize the fear, and when you do that, you can regain some trust in yourself.

All Love,

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The answer to betrayal isn’t that you won’t trust again, it’s that you won’t lie to yourself anymore.
Been burned? Betrayal, denial, and the bloody beauty of it all.

 

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We’re all making progress. Stay open, stay brave.

Danielle LaPorte Sonic Collection

Love,

It’s THANK YOU TIME. Team D and I are so grateful for the ways you show up and shine with us. The kind messages you send the team, your IG posts… all the times you’ve shared our content… Thank you!

Your love inspires us. So we created something special to express our great thanks. A gift of sonic power, made especially for you.

Danielle LaPorte Sonic Collection

A chaotic news cycle. Holiday madness. Before you harden into survival mode, here’s something to remind you of the strength in your softness. Eight hand-picked tracks for courage, guidance, honouring what’s possible, and refusing to go numb.

Your (free) soundtrack for wide-open-hearted living:

  1. Nothing changes without me (a poem for open, terrified hearts)
  2. The epidemic of the brittle woman and the salvation of softness
  3. The difference between being “detached” and “non-attachment”
  4. #TellThemNow: The intimacy of gratitude will blow your life wide open
  5. How to not give a shit (even though you really do)
  6. The risky business of being sincere in business
  7. I call all of my power back to me now
  8. The initiated woman

Here’s how to get this mix for free: Add Stay open, stay brave to your cart and use the gift code “DEEPMIX” to checkout. Then download, listen… expand.

Deep Mix

We give thanks, we let our truth flags fly, we protect what needs protecting, we love… and we keep on loving. 

Steady on,

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A chaotic news cycle. Holiday madness. Before you harden into survival mode, here’s something to remind you of the strength in your softness.
Stay open, stay brave. Eight hand-picked tracks for courage, guidance, honouring what’s possible, and refusing to go numb.

 

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Show Me How to Love Myself—a Devotion

Show me how to love myself truly and entirely.

Show me how to eat, sleep, and move my body
for nourishment, restoration, celebration.
Show me how to embody everything that is my joy.

Face me toward my Soul
my innocence,
my beauty,
my strength,
my gifts.

Show me what I knew before I took on the veils of human form.
Show me who I am with no attachments, and who I am fulfilled.

Rinse comparison from my psyche,
lift my gaze to my Higher Self.
On the dark days, just remind me that I am a good person
and that I was chosen to be here.
Please affirm that I am valued regardless of my productivity or my past.

Help me notice how my Loving shows up in everyday doings.
Help me see how I make a positive difference to the atmosphere of Life itself.
Show me how to revel in my Divine qualities
and to give them generously to the world.

Support me to make empowered choices
that are the best for my body, mind, and spirit.

Help me integrate the parts of myself that I’ve abandoned
so that I move forward, fuller and wise.

There is formula for forgiveness.
Help me mix it and drink it,
first bringing the cup to my own lips,
to loosen and wash away what I’ve held against myself.

Help me shift my relationship to deserving
so that I tend to my needs with incredible sweetness.

Guide me to knowing my magnificence, that I will transform
self-doubt into courage
denial into resolve
brittleness into fluidity
criticism into adoration
proving into honouring
striving into trusting
constriction into allowing
and
harshness into an embrace that is greater than time.

 

May all be so blessed.

 


 

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Show Me How to Love Myself—a Devotion
“Guide me to knowing my magnificence… ” The latest devotion from Danielle LaPorte.

 

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Photo credit: Anastasia Chomlack

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