What is desire?

An evolutionary impulse.

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Nothing changes without me (a poem for open, terrified hearts)


my heart is so open
I can’t tell
if it is a gaping wound
or a portal
for everything
that ever was and ever will be.

I’ve learned to love the beautiful terror of eternity,
and scenario planning how shattered I could be
if the dark things got tall
and if I fell backwards in my forgetting of the Light.

But you can’t fall backwards in Space,
You can only only only ever unfurl.

More than anything,
I’ve wed the certainty that nothing changes without me –
not coal becoming diamonds
not fertilizing eggs
or migration patterns
or medicine dreams.

And what I thought was a net cast to me from a higher God
is actually
strands of truth and filaments of desire
that I have
strung together with my own hands.

In precious encounters,
I tie what I know & want to you,
so we can ride the winds of wonder.

Please don't punish yourself.

It’s hard enough to make your way in a world where you will be judged, daily. To overcome the intentional punishments inflicted by dark mongers; to find the right concoction for emotional wounds; and to rise from the simply deep heartache of not getting what you want — it’s anything but easy. It’s gruelling enough to be betrayed when you have been over-loyal; to feel like an imposter at the pretty party; to be seemingly alone in your looping fixations (you’re never alone); to feel like the star ship flew off and orphaned you in a cabbage patch of zygotes to be adopted by humans who can’t understand you. This stuff of earth, you know, it’s a lot of things, but it’s anything but easy.

Have I painted the picture? How heavy this trip can be? Good. Then why would you wittingly make it harder on yourself?

Please don’t punish yourself.

Not with deprivation diets.
Not with constant self-improvement.
Not with guilt trips, or following plans that are so tight you can hardly exhale.
Not with self-talk that is less than all-loving (I’m so dumb, so stupid, so needy, I could have, I should have…). Every word, punishing you.

Setting up consequences if you fail… Only rewarding yourself if you succeed — these can be veiled punishments, often in the name of motivation, obligation, and endurance. We even punish ourselves in the name of enlightenment — and that is so cosmically fucked up.

What do you learn from punishment? Actually, it doesn’t matter much, because any lesson possibly garnered from punishment is so barbed with pain it takes years to see the learning — let alone appreciate it. Forget it.

Punishment has a direct opposite — so wildly oppositional that it’s irresistible, if you dare…


Pleasure heals.
Pleasure makes all of the (seemingly) unavoidable hardships of just.being.here. so much easier.
Your pleasure empowers you. tweet

After years of being hard on ourselves and staying stuck in karmic cycles, pleasure-making is courageous.

So when you’re going through hell, find whatever might be luxurious at the time — a day alone, an abrupt departure, therapy, art, being witnessed in a guilt-free rant, rest.
Reward yourself for failing — with comfort, with what you planned to do if you won.
Look at yourself and say, “All is forgiven.” Forgive yourself for quitting, for asking someone to do something that you knew was impossible, for taking more than your share. You’re learning. You learned. Integrate your hard lesson with pleasure.

Stop rewarding yourself “if…”
Reward yourself because you’re here.
You showed up to master light.
You showed up to know pleasure.

The first ever Level TWO Desire Map workshops are happening soon! Set your goals with Soul. Vancouver, San Fran, LA, NYC + more!

THE DESIRE MAP WORKSHOP LEVEL 2. A course for connecting your Core Desired Feelings to your life’s intentions. Soul goals and heart-based planning.

Now that The Desire Map Licensing Program is out in the world, Level 1 workshops are happening just about everywhere. Women (and a few cool dudes) from LA to Dublin to Tampa are gathering together for rituals and Core Desired Feeling aha’s.

level2headshot_final“After teaching over 45 retreats, this one was completely captivating in a way that I’ll never forget. Everything just grooved all weekend… The Desire Map process unfolded beautifully.” – Jane Reeves, Yoga Teacher and Desire Map Facilitator


Now, we’re dialing it up and rolling out The Desire Map Workshop Level 2. In this workshop, you’ll take the Core Desired Feelings you clarified in Level 1 and attach them to the practical things you want to do, have and experience in your life. Spiritual pragmatism.

Our Level 2 Beta Leaders are hosting workshops virtually and in person, so there are plenty of options to choose from. Pick a Leader, a city, a time zone and follow your heart’s desire.



L’Erin Alta: @lerin Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest
IN PERSON: Feb 20 — 22 / New York, NY
VIRTUAL: Feb 8 – 28


Sandi Amorim: @SandiAmorim Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest
IN PERSON: Feb 15 / Vancouver, BC
VIRTUAL: Feb 8 – 28


Kate Swoboda: @katecourageous Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest
IN PERSON: Feb 28 / San Francisco, CA


Stephanie Watanabe: @TGWKMagazine / Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest
IN PERSON: Feb 28 / Los Angeles, CA



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