What is desire?

An evolutionary impulse.

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You’re on the verge of a miracle. #Truthbomb elaborations

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A Course In Miracles
defines a miracle as “a shift in perception.” I love that, because that definition covers a lot of bases. You can choose to believe in spontaneous healing and create a physiological miracle. Or you can simply decide to forgive someone you thought you’d never, ever forgive. “It’ll take a miracle,” you might have thought. But often, the miracle comes from within. And you can create that miracle anytime by changing your mind about something. Let it be easy. Let it be grand. Let it be now. Let it be so.

You’re on the verge of a miracle. tweet


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When you’re done fighting for it. The upside of finally giving up.


Do you know the story of the man who was hitting himself over the head with a hammer? “Why do you keep hitting yourself with that hammer?” a shocked passerby asked him. “Because,” the man replied, “it’s going to feel so good when I stop.”

Examine the evidence. You keep fighting the same fight. You’re losing sleep. You’re sick of hearing yourself complain about the same damn things over and over again (yammer, hammer, hammer). Clearly, wrestling isn’t getting you closer to free. It’s quite possible that…you have no fight left in you.

This is excellent news! This is beautiful! Because…

When you have no fight left in you, you get to stop fighting. This defeat can be a major victory. tweet

He’s not going to change — even though he could. And if he did, it would take a few years — how many more years are you going to give? She’s not going to budge. She’s told you so, repeatedly — so believe her. Your industry isn’t getting more enlightened, the signs are everywhere — stop trying to change the game and go where you can really play. In terms of some of your dreams…if it were going to happen, it would have happened by now.

(And, if you’re resolved to hang in there, I’ve got lots of encouragement and practical sermons for your cause. I wrote a book about goals with soul. But today, we’re talking about the divinity of laying your burden right the hell DOWN.)

4 ways to make it easier to let go of goals and projects this includes work projects, relationship “projects”, soul projects:

  1. Focus on the relief of giving up. I’m going to stop fighting with this because I just.want.peace. I’m going to stop grinding, because I want more ease in in my life. I’m declaring my karma PAID, IN FULL. I’m done learning my lessons through suffering, I’m going to learn more gracefully now. 
I know there’s a better way and I’m going to allow for that. I already feel relieved.
  2. Focus on the benefits of no longer fighting. Less fighting, less crying, less over-eating, fewer therapy bills. More sleep, more space, more time, more creativity, more free expression, way more energy, more YOU…(keep the list going…)
  3. Focus on your core desired feelings. The big bonus of NOT feeling the way you want to is that you get really clear on how you DO want to feel. We learn through contrast.
  4. Focus on your NEW ideal. Note: NEW. Don’t slip into dream-resurrection. (They’ll change, you’ll change, the industry will change…) You want an equal relationship, you want to feel vital, you want to earn a living that’s totally in sync with your soul.

When you stop struggling to make something go the way you’ve wanted it to, you shift the energy grid of our life. Facing the facts is liberating (even though it can be wrenching) — and with that truth comes a major power surge.

When you’re done fighting, you’re.done.fighting. It’s a bittersweet relief. Focus on the sweet. tweet

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Last week from Danielle:
When you get through the big pain, this is what happens:
Near-blinding radiance.
You will have more to give—and you will LOVE giving it.

Procrastination can be a form of intuition. #Truthbomb elaborations

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…and by that I mean: Even type-A personalities and wildly productive grown-ups put things off. But what we might critique as procrastination can be a misdiagnosis for instinct. One of the effects of living in a hyper-productive society is that intuitive resistance can get labeled as procrastination. But…

What seems like avoidance may be a deeper inkling of wrong timing. tweet

Hesitation can be a form of wisdom. Motives become clearer; new information shows up. Amazing grace can happen when you choose inner rhythms over external pressure. It’s worth considering: you may be putting it off for divine reasons.

Procrastination can be a form of intuition. tweet


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