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Betsy Vander Werf

Core Desired Feelings strong, engaged, peace, playful

Specialty Life Coaching, Personal Development

About Me

I have been in the business of personal and professional growth for over 25 years sculpturing my talents in Management and Training roles. This experience has developed the innate ability to assist others and guide them to their desired outcome. I have always had a passion for helping people grow and decided to follow this passion by getting my certification as a Life Coach with the Certified Coaches Federation and become a facilitator for Desire Map Workshops. I am an inspiring and energetic workshop facilitator and coach, highly motivated by the rewards of developing people to reach their full potential and personal best.
‘I seek to share and inspire by helping connect you to your true self passion and purpose’.

Contact Info

Email: starfishsoulwork@gmail.com

Website: http:starfishsoulwork.com

Q & A

Q: What are your Core Desired Feelings?

Strong, Engaged, Peace

Q: How / where did you Desire Map? What did you love about doing it that way?

A friend of mine went through a major career change. I had coffee with her and she mentioned how reading the book Desire Map helped her make the decision. I was intrigued because she was so happy. I went out and purchased the book and read through it on my own. I then determined my core desired feelings and created 3 goals for 2015. In mid 2015 I registered for a desire map 3 day workshop , wanting to have the ‘full’ experience. It reaffirmed my path and CDFs. Amazing experience. I want to give everyone an opportunity to have that experience.

Q: Tell me a specific story about how knowing your CDFs has changed your life.

Knowing how I want to feel helps me in every decision I need to make, big and small. I have given myself permission to live my strong life.

Q: Why are you passionate about sharing this work with others?

If you want to achieve your 'desired life' then you must decide on the end goal and carve out that path, choosing how to think, feel and behave along the way.

Testimonials

Betsy facilitated a wonderful day, creating a safe, relaxed and warm space that made sharing and thinking and creating a real joy! The group dynamic was supportive and I had a truly inspired experience. I was able to look a little deeper, and I came away with a clear plan for where I want to be and how I will be achieving this. So exciting!

I was planning to retire this year, and I was having a difficult time believing that it would actually happen. Then, I joined in on Betsy's Desire Map Workshop. I left feeling positive and empowered, and with clarity in my vision for my future. Now I know what I have to do, to FEEL THE WAY I WANT TO FEEL.

Offerings

Events

14 Jul 2018
Hamilton, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

Do you feel it is finally your time to shine? To wake up feeling awake. To face challenges with heart and support. If you are looking to get clear about your passions and purpose in your life/family/business/career and if you want to learn how to start making decisions and setting goals with ease and exceptional CLARITY, then this live workshop is for you. The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 will help you clarify what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. You will be guided to explore your most desired feelings in 5 life areas: Lifestyle + Livelihood Creativity + Learning Body + Wellness Relationships + Society Essence + Spirituality The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 is a program for clarifying what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. We will look at our perceptions around feelings and goal setting. We will examine how we drive and strive, and see where in our lives we experience freedom and where we want more of it. You will leave this workshop knowing - AND LOVING - your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS, a guidance system for your most soul-aligned decision-making: a GPS for your soul. When you're clear on how you want to feel and you commit to generating those feelings, you take charge of your life and your happiness.. $65.00  includes Desire Map workbook. Let's meet up!
Register
24 Feb 2018
Barrie, ON, Canada

Desire Map Level 2- Goals with Soul

Goals with Soul
A DESIRE MAP WORKSHOP

Based on the best seller by Danielle LaPorte
You're putting your Core Desired Feelings at the center of your life.

Yes, yes, you are.

You know how you want to feel. And you've got a really good idea of what you can do, have, and experience, and think and believe to help yourself feel that way. Every day. Some people go their entire lives on an autopilot of do-get-do-get, but you?ve just cracked a code to wide-awake living.

Now it?s time to take aim and devote yourself to actualizing what you want the most.

The Desire Map Workshop Level 2 is the practical application of the core desired feelings that you identified in the Level 1 Workshop. This is where clarity meets action. In the next level of the Desire Map process, you will:

1. Explore perceptions of goals and goal-setting in relationship to ambition, external approval, and ?success.?

Most people will identify at least one pattern of behavior related to goal-setting that has been restricting their capacity for freedom. In this workshop, we create a sacred space that will help you meaningfully reorient your relationship with goals into one that helps you do, have, and experience what you most desire to feel.

2. Identify a handful of goals or intentions that are aligned with your core desired feelings and create a plan to support them.

You may want not want to set any goals. You might want to set one hundred goals that are attached to precise measurables. All of that it totally good with me. I am here to support you in your journey.

HERE?S THE PROBLEM WITH TRADITIONAL GOAL SETTING

Intentions and goals are tools for liberation. So when we use goal chasing like a hammer, it can beat up on our self-esteem, relationships, and creativity. Setting the goal, pursuing it, and achieving the goal is supposed to feel good. If you?re going to set ?goals to die by,? then, well, God bless ya. But there is a better way?

(Feeling good is the whole point.)

GOALS WITH SOUL

When you are clear on how you most want to feel, you turn traditional goal setting inside out. Constant racing for success creates habitual and unconscious goal-setting. The Goals with Soul workshop is going to help you relearn how to move toward your dreams ? with trust and well-placed devotion. The more you choose your core desired feelings over your external objectives, the more content you will become.

Go after the goals that nourish your spirit, with your core desired feelings as the compass. Goals with Soul will energize you and, when you?re on track moving toward such goals, life will keep throwing synchronicities your way.

Feeling good is the whole point.

DESIRE EVEN MORE? YA, YOU DO.
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3 Feb 2018
Barrie, ON, Canada

Desire Map Level 1- Discovery

Do you feel it is finally your time to shine? To wake up feeling awake. To face challenges with heart and support. If you are looking to get clear about your passions and purpose in your life/family/business/career and if you want to learn how to start making decisions and setting goals with ease and exceptional CLARITY, then this live workshop is for you. The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 will help you clarify what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. You will be guided to explore your most desired feelings in 5 life areas: Lifestyle + Livelihood Creativity + Learning Body + Wellness Relationships + Society Essence + Spirituality The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 is a program for clarifying what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. We will look at our perceptions around feelings and goal setting. We will examine how we drive and strive, and see where in our lives we experience freedom and where we want more of it. You will leave this workshop knowing - AND LOVING - your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS, a guidance system for your most soul-aligned decision-making: a GPS for your soul. When you're clear on how you want to feel and you commit to generating those feelings, you take charge of your life and your happiness.. $65.00  includes Desire Map workbook. Let's meet up!
Register
11 Nov 2017
Barrie, ON, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

A DESIRE MAP WORKSHOP

We have the procedures of achievement upside down. We come up with our to-do lists, resolutions, bucket lists, and strategic plans — all the stuff we want to have, get, accomplish, and experience outside of ourselves. And here’s the heart of it all: All of those aspirations are being driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way.

So what if we get clear on how we actually want to feel within ourselves, and then we design our to-do lists, set our goals, and make our resolutions?

How do you want to feel when you wake up in the morning?
How do you want to feel when you look at your schedule for the week?
When you get dressed in the morning?
When you walk through the door of your studio or your office?
When you pick up the phone?
When you cash the check, accept the award, finish your masterpiece, make the sale, or fall in love?

How do you want to feel? 

Desire Map Level 1 is a one-day in-person workshop for discovering what you want most out of your life. This is a brand new, holistic way to set goals — with soul. Based on the best-selling book The Desire Map, we get straight to the heart of the matter: How you want to feel? At the end of this workshop, you will walk away with your Core Desired Feelings and use those to guide your life decisions in your career, your body, your creativity, your relationships, and your spirit. This is a revolution in goal-planning from the heart.

GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU MOST WANT OUT OF LIFE AND PLAN TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

Desire feeling good more than you want to check accomplishments off your list. Desire feeling good more than you want to please other people.
Desire feeling good more than you want to look good.

CREATE YOUR GOALS WITH SOUL.
Register
28 Oct 2017
Barrie, ON, Canada

Desire Map Level 2

Goals with Soul
A DESIRE MAP WORKSHOP
Based on the best seller by Danielle LaPorte

You're putting your Core Desired Feelings at the center of your life.

Yes, yes, you are.

You know how you want to feel. And you've got a really good idea of what you can do, have, and experience, and think and believe to help yourself feel that way. Every day. Some people go their entire lives on an autopilot of do-get-do-get, but you've just cracked a code to wide-awake living.

Now it's time to take aim and devote yourself to actualizing what you want the most.

The Desire Map Workshop Level 2 is the practical application of the core desired feelings that you identified in the Level 1 Workshop. This is where clarity meets action. In the next level of the Desire Map process, you will:

1. Explore perceptions of goals and goal-setting in relationship to ambition, external approval, and ?success.?

Most people will identify at least one pattern of behavior related to goal-setting that has been restricting their capacity for freedom. In this workshop, we create a sacred space that will help you meaningfully reorient your relationship with goals into one that helps you do, have, and experience what you most desire to feel.

2. Identify a handful of goals or intentions that are aligned with your core desired feelings and create a plan to support them.

You may want not want to set any goals. You might want to set one hundred goals that are attached to precise measurables. All of that it totally good with me. I am here to support you in your journey.

HERE'S THE PROBLEM WITH TRADITIONAL GOAL SETTING


Intentions and goals are tools for liberation. So when we use goal chasing like a hammer, it can beat up on our self-esteem, relationships, and creativity. Setting the goal, pursuing it, and achieving the goal is supposed to feel good. If you?re going to set ?goals to die by,? then, well, God bless ya. But there is a better way?


(Feeling good is the whole point.)


GOALS WITH SOUL


When you are clear on how you most want to feel, you turn traditional goal setting inside out. Constant racing for success creates habitual and unconscious goal-setting. The Goals with Soul workshop is going to help you relearn how to move toward your dreams ? with trust and well-placed devotion. The more you choose your core desired feelings over your external objectives, the more content you will become.


Go after the goals that nourish your spirit, with your core desired feelings  as the compass. Goals with Soul will energize you and, when you?re on track moving toward such goals, life will keep throwing synchronicities your way.


Feeling good is the whole point.


DESIRE EVEN MORE? YA, YOU DO.
Register
10 Jun 2017
Barrie, ON, Canada

Desire Map Workshop Level 1




We have the procedures of achievement upside down. We come up with our to-do lists, resolutions, bucket lists, and strategic plans - all the stuff we want to have, get, accomplish, and experience outside of ourselves. And here's the heart of it all: All of those aspirations are being driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way.

So what if we get clear on how we actually want to feel within ourselves, and then we design our to-do lists, set our goals, and make our resolutions?

How do you want to feel when you wake up in the morning?
How do you want to feel when you look at your schedule for the week?
When you get dressed in the morning?
When you walk through the door of your studio or your office?
When you pick up the phone?
When you cash the check, accept the award, finish your masterpiece, make the sale, or fall in love?

How do you want to feel??

Desire Map Level 1 is a one-day in-person workshop for discovering what you want most out of your life. This is a brand new, holistic way to set goals with soul. Based on the best-selling book The Desire Map, we get straight to the heart of the matter: How you want to feel? At the end of this workshop, you will walk away with your Core Desired Feelings and use those to guide your life decisions in your career, your body, your creativity, your relationships, and your spirit. This is a revolution in goal-planning from the heart.

GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU MOST WANT OUT OF LIFE AND PLAN TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

Desire feeling good more than you want to check accomplishments off your list. Desire feeling good more than you want to please other people.
Desire feeling good more than you want to look good.

CREATE YOUR GOALS WITH SOUL.








Register
27 May 2017
East Gwillimbury, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Workshop Level 2

Goals with Soul


A DESIRE MAP WORKSHOP


Based on the best seller by Danielle LaPorte


 


You’re putting your Core Desired Feelings at the center of your life.


Yes, yes, you are.


You know how you want to feel. And you’ve got a really good idea of what you can do, have, and experience — and think and believe — to help yourself feel that way. Every day. Some people go their entire lives on an autopilot of do-get-do-get, but you’ve just cracked a code to wide-awake living.


Now it’s time to take aim and devote yourself to actualizing what you want the most.


The Desire Map Workshop Level 2 is the practical application of the core desired feelings that you identified in the Level 1 Workshop. This is where clarity meets action. In the next level of the Desire Map process, you will:


1. Explore perceptions of goals and goal-setting in relationship to ambition, external approval, and “success.”


Most people will identify at least one pattern of behavior related to goal-setting that has been restricting their capacity for freedom. In this workshop, we create a sacred space that will help you meaningfully reorient your relationship with goals into one that helps you do, have, and experience what you most desire to feel.


2. Identify a handful of goals or intentions that are aligned with your core desired feelings and create a plan to support them.


You may want not want to set any goals. You might want to set one hundred goals that are attached to precise measurables. All of that it totally good with me. I am here to support you in your journey.


HERE’S THE PROBLEM WITH TRADITIONAL GOAL SETTING


Intentions and goals are tools for liberation. So when we use goal chasing like a hammer, it can beat up on our self-esteem, relationships, and creativity. Setting the goal, pursuing it, and achieving the goal is supposed to feel good. If you’re going to set “goals to die by,” then, well, God bless ya. But there is a better way…


(Feeling good is the whole point.)


GOALS WITH SOUL


When you are clear on how you most want to feel, you turn traditional goal setting inside out. Constant racing for success creates habitual and unconscious goal-setting. The Goals with Soul workshop is going to help you relearn how to move toward your dreams — with trust and well-placed devotion. The more you choose your core desired feelings over your external objectives, the more content you will become.


Go after the goals that nourish your spirit, with your core desired feelings  as the compass. Goals with Soul will energize you and, when you’re on track moving toward such goals, life will keep throwing synchronicities your way.


Feeling good is the whole point.


DESIRE EVEN MORE? YA, YOU DO.
Register
25 Mar 2017
Barrie, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

We have the procedures of achievement upside down. Typically we come up with our to-do lists, our bucket lists, and our strategic plans ? all the stuff we want to have, get, accomplish, and experience outside of ourselves. All of those aspirations are being driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way.

How do you want to feel?when you look at your schedule for the week?when you get dressed in the morning?when you walk through the door of your office?when you pick up the phone?when you cash the check?when you fall in love?when you accept the award?when you make the sale?
What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then we laid out our intentions? What if your most desired feelings consciously informed how you plan your day, your year, your career, your holidays ? your life?

You know what will happen with that kind of inner clarity and outer action? You?ll feel the way you want to feel more often than not. Decisions will be easier to make: You?ll know what to say no to and what to say hell-yes to. You?ll be more optimistic, more open-hearted. It will be easier for you to return to your center in the midst of a challenge.
$99.00 includes Desire Map workbook, snacks, lunch and special gift
Register
4 Feb 2017
Barrie, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

We have the procedures of achievement upside down. Every New Year’s, we come up with our to-do lists, resolutions, bucket lists, and strategic plans — all the stuff we want to have, get, accomplish, and experience outside of ourselves. And here’s the heart of it all: All of those aspirations are being driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way.

So what if this year, we get clear on how we actually want to feel within ourselves, and then we design our to-do lists, set our goals, and make our resolutions?

How do you want to feel when you wake up on January 1st?
How do you want to feel when you look at your schedule for the week?
When you get dressed in the morning?
When you walk through the door of your studio or your office?
When you pick up the phone?
When you cash the check, accept the award, finish your masterpiece, make the sale, or fall in love?

How do you want to feel? 

Desire Map Level 1 is a one-day in-person workshop for discovering what you want most out of your life. This is a brand new, holistic way to set New Year’s resolutions — with soul. Based on the best-selling book The Desire Map, we get straight to the heart of the matter: How you want to feel? At the end of this New Year’s workshop, you will walk away with your Core Desired Feelings and use those to guide your life decisions in your career, your body, your creativity, your relationships, and your spirit. This is a revolution in goal-planning from the heart.

GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU MOST WANT OUT OF LIFE IN 2017 AND PLAN TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

Desire feeling good more than you want to check accomplishments off your list. Desire feeling good more than you want to please other people.
Desire feeling good more than you want to look good.

CREATE YOUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WITH SOUL.

$99.00 includes Desire Map workbook, snacks, lunch and special gift. To hold your spot please message me or email starfishsoulwork@gmail.com
Register
12 Nov 2016
Barrie, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

1DAY IN-PERSON WORKSHOP: Do you feel it is finally your time to shine? To wake up feeling awake. To face challenges with heart and support. If you are looking to get clear about your passions and purpose in your life/family/business/career and if you want to learn how to start making decisions and setting goals with ease and exceptional CLARITY, then this live workshop is for you. The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 will help you clarify what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. You will be guided to explore your most desired feelings in 5 life areas: Lifestyle + Livelihood Creativity + Learning Body + Wellness Relationships + Society Essence + Spirituality The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 is a program for clarifying what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. We will look at our perceptions around feelings and goal setting. We will examine how we drive and strive, and see where in our lives we experience freedom and where we want more of it. You will leave this workshop knowing - AND LOVING - your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS, a guidance system for your most soul-aligned decision-making: a GPS for your soul. When you're clear on how you want to feel and you commit to generating those feelings, you take charge of your life and your happiness.. Cost $99.00 for 1 day workshop, lunch and refreshments, Bonus also includes Desire Map Workbook. Let's meet up!
Register
22 Oct 2016
Barrie, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

1DAY IN-PERSON WORKSHOP: Do you feel it is finally your time to shine? To wake up feeling awake. To face challenges with heart and support. If you are looking to get clear about your passions and purpose in your life/family/business/career and if you want to learn how to start making decisions and setting goals with ease and exceptional CLARITY, then this live workshop is for you. The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 will help you clarify what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. You will be guided to explore your most desired feelings in 5 life areas: Lifestyle + Livelihood Creativity + Learning Body + Wellness Relationships + Society Essence + Spirituality The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 is a program for clarifying what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. We will look at our perceptions around feelings and goal setting. We will examine how we drive and strive, and see where in our lives we experience freedom and where we want more of it. You will leave this workshop knowing - AND LOVING - your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS, a guidance system for your most soul-aligned decision-making: a GPS for your soul. When you're clear on how you want to feel and you commit to generating those feelings, you take charge of your life and your happiness.. Cost $99.00 for 1 day workshop, lunch and refreshments, Bonus also includes Desire Map Workbook. Let's meet up!
Register
25 Jun 2016
Newmarket, Ontario, Canada

Desire Map Level 1

1DAY IN-PERSON WORKSHOP: Do you feel it is finally your time to shine? To wake up feeling awake. To face challenges with heart and support. If you are looking to get clear about your passions and purpose in your life/family/business/career and if you want to learn how to start making decisions and setting goals with ease and exceptional CLARITY, then this live workshop is for you. The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 will help you clarify what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. You will be guided to explore your most desired feelings in 5 life areas: Lifestyle + Livelihood Creativity + Learning Body + Wellness Relationships + Society Essence + Spirituality The Desire Map Workshop Level 1 is a program for clarifying what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on. We will look at our perceptions around feelings and goal setting. We will examine how we drive and strive, and see where in our lives we experience freedom and where we want more of it. You will leave this workshop knowing - AND LOVING - your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS, a guidance system for your most soul-aligned decision-making: a GPS for your soul. When you're clear on how you want to feel and you commit to generating those feelings, you take charge of your life and your happiness.. Cost $149.00 for 1 day workshop, lunch and refreshments, Bonus also includes Desire Map Workbook. Let's meet up!
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