Examine your expectations + what it means to deeply let go…

Free and Clear Letting Go

Sweet Seekers! (As in, fellow humans looking for lightness and direction-refinement…)

Here’s your second installment of Free & Clear. (Last week was RETROSPECTION).

WEEK 2: EXPECTATIONS & LETTING GO

Sometimes the letting-go process feels really sexy and empowering. Burn it! Nix it! Bye! And sometimes, we want to hold on (grip, cuddle, cling) to things. What if I need it? If I polish it up, then can I keep it? But I worked so hard on this…

There are times to get amped up and “just let that shit go.” But letting go usually involves other people, or hopes that we’ve carried a long time, and letting go can be connected to our livelihood. If you’re a loving, mindful creature (which you are, because you’re reading this), then letting go is typically entangled with some considerations. Because you care—about others, and your mental health.

Whether you need to perform delicate surgery on your commitments, or you need to just blow some shit up and walk away, healthy letting go requires mindfulnessSo let’s really feel and think this through to get you free and clear.

FreeandClear.2018_Email.Week2.WorksheetTHIS EXERCISE… goes deeper

We’re going to open a door that’s easy to miss when we want to clean out what’s holding us back. We’re going to examine what it FEELS like to let go of stuff. Not WHAT we’re getting rid of or changing, but the sensation (ecstasy? terror?) of releasing and changing. And it turns out that those emotions are very wrapped up in expectations.

This exercise is not about making fast, high-pressure decisions about overhauling your entire life in five steps. This is much more fluid and abstract. I’m just asking you to consider how some behaviours feel. We want to point light on our subconscious so that our decisions—when it comes time to make them—are much more conscious.

We’ll come at this from two directions. One: Your Expectations. Two: What you hold dear to you.

Download your EXPECTATIONS & LETTING GO worksheet now.

Let’s jam on this together TOMORROW: Wednesday, October 17, on the @desiremap Instagram at 12pm PST / 3pm EST.

Free and Clear

HOW TO WATCH LIVE:
Instagram: On your phone find @desiremap. Click on the profile photo and join my Live Story. When it’s over, you can view it again for up to 24 hours, in the same place!

Facebook: I’ll be streaming live in the Desire Map Facebook Group. The video will appear at the top of the group page.

CATCH THE REPLAY anytime on @desiremap’s IGTV or in the Desire Map Facebook Group.

Let go. Because in the chaos-crazy times, we need to question what’s worked, what hasn’t, and how we’re going to create something better—for ourselves and each other.

All Love,

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Around the corner…
The theme for the next edition of FREE & CLEAR will be: WANT TO CHANGE. (It’s going to feel empowering. Eventually. I promise.)

Before you go…
Book reco: Start Where You Are, by Pema Chodron

Spotify Playlist: SWEET LETTING GO

Tunes: Some music for your contemplations…

  • Kingdom Come, Raury
  • Coming Home, Leon Bridges
  • Sisters of Mercy, Serena Ryder
  • Landslide, Antony
  • Ascension, Maxwell
  • For You, Angus & Julia Stone
  • You Can’t Always Get What You Want, The Rolling Stones

 

PS. Send this to a friend who needs some sweet release…

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Healthy letting go requires mindfulness.
Expectations are part of human desire.

 

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