This week we launched Conversation Starters: A Desire Map App. You can download it from the App Store right HERE.
Meet Agnes Ito — mama warrior, pisces, designer, love revolutionary. This summer Agnes participated in one of the very first conversation groups fueled by the app. In the spirit of good conversation, here’s a Q&A with Agnes, on everything from mantras to meditation to music. You’re going to love this.
I know I am to have 5, but I can’t let these babies go. Still working on narrowing them down.
Honey Golden Love
Beyonce Dance Moves
How I learned about The Desire Map:
I saw this fiery orange book that said “FIRE STARTER SESSIONS” on Amazon. Automatically drawn in. Then I wondered if they had an audiobook… checked it out on iTunes, heard Danielle’s voice. I was hooked. Naturally, the Desire Map was coming home to me.
How Desire Mapping has changed my life:
I’ve let go of the “framework” of things… which was a gamechanger. I’ve learned to love my size (curvy girl) and accept my body because I feel my “Beyonce” when I celebrate the body I already have. 5’7″ and 160 lbs is something I am now proud of. No shame in those numbers. I now work out, mediate & eat healthy for CLARITY, FIRE & to be in my MAMA WARRIOR mode. It’s as if I am preparing like a Warrior…. I have shit to do. I need to be Ninja ready. I let go of how I thought what my body needed to look like and started to focus on how I wanted to feel in it… and it in NOW, not when I hit a goal weight or fit in some old jeans. I was numb about my vessel and put my dreams on hold because I did not hit my target weight. Now I rock my curves.
I have also left a 6yr relationship that looked good on the outside, but I was so lonely and caught up in insecurities. I loved his family, we looked good together, our story on how we got together was sweet….we had a great group of friends, we’ve been together for so long, etc. “Of course we’re gonna get married!” I tried to convince myself. But I was dying inside, I lost myself completely. My fire was out and I was trying to be the girl he wanted me to be. I became so insecure and felt inadequate because I was not honoring my needs. How can I change my life for the better or grow if I was dead inside and so out of touch with who I was….everything seemed fake. I met Danielle at the first meeting for the L.A. Desire Map book club on a Tuesday I left the relationship the following Thursday. She reminded me how I needed to honor how I wanted to feel….to “dump the chump.”
Fav daily way to feel my CDFs:
I need to work out in the morning… I do boxing and Buti Yoga (tribal dance + yoga). I definitely feel WARRIOR MAMMA + BEYONCE DANCE MOVES, also Clarity. Movement is my number one thing I do that shifts me. I also try to smile at people when we make eye contact…to feel love & connection, just send out good vibes. I stay connected with my tribe (family & friends) as much as possible. I meditate, pray, listen or read to anything that motivates me (Spotify & Audiobooks are my salvation).
Music I’m listening to that inspires my CDFs:
Reggae & Latin music ALWAYS wake my body up. It starts moving on its own. The percussions are magic. Old School 90’s Hip Hop (The Roots, Common, Notorious BIG, Lauryn Hill, A Tribe Called Quest, Wu Tang, Mos Def, JDilla, etc.) 90’s R&B / New Jack Swing….nostalgia. Neo Soul is powerful – India Arie, Jill Scott, Erykah Badu…
My current mantra:
One place/activity where I feel most alive in my CDFs:
When I drive through Los Angeles (SIlverlake / Los Feliz / Echo Park, lately) I feel home, its where I grew up. I love getting lost in the hills & finding my way home.
4 things I’m grateful for right now:
- My tribe
- My job
- My car
- My home
Simple, but a lot of people don’t even have any of those today. I’m already abundant in so many ways.
My life passion:
To love, nurture, create. To help people figure things out. It’s innate in me. I also want to make people smile, help create moments for them. I’m drawn to these situations and have always been that person in people’s lives. I believe I am a healer of sorts. I believe my love is powerful. Is that crazy talk?
What I’m reading right now:
The Desire Map is always a constant. But other books right now are:
- Women Who Run with the Wolves
- Money: A Love Story (I’ve been scared to tackle this one)
- Fire Starter Sessions (revisiting)
One thing I’ve stopped doing:
Overcommitting and saying “yes” to things that take away from me time.
If I could give just one piece of Desire Mapping advice, it would be:
To let go of dreams / goals that no longer serve you. To surrender & stop fighting. “If it was going to happen, it would have happened already.” WHAT! THAT was a game changer!
At least once a week I do this to feel my CDFs:
Move. Meditate. Connect. Release (forgive).
Fav sites for inspiration:
- imakemine.tumblr.com (my tumblr)
Fav quote from Danielle, or The Desire Map:
Can’t live without:
Love. It’s my superpower.
When I feel most like myself:
When I fall asleep to movies with both my daughters on each side of me, exhausted of laughter and dream sharing. When I am in a room full of like-minded people, my tribe – laughing, storytelling, connecting. Dancing to reggae, barefoot, with a sangria in my hand, on a summer night. When I am on the phone helping someone get clarity and knowing they can see better. Sending love. When I am around young girls, answering questions about my life. When I make someone laugh. When I see someone’s face when he or she walks into a surprise party I planned. When I am in love. When I take my elderly parents out to run errands with them and buy them Ice cream at the end of it all. Full circle.
Please share your musings, a-ha’s, or love for Agnes, below!