What are your core desired feelings?
Centered, Joy, Inspired, Free.
What are you doing this week or lately to generate your core desired feelings?
I have my CDFs written on a whiteboard next to my desk (they are never erased). Every morning when I sit down to work I spend a couple of minutes reflecting on my CDFs to help remind myself what I’m working for (and towards).
Also – riding horses and just being around them fulfills each and every one of my CDFs. I ride every week and take every opportunity to hang with horses when I can – they keep my mind in the present moment. There’s no “faking it” with horses – you have to be totally there with them and tune into your energy flow in order to communicate what you’re looking for.
What lightbulb went off for you when you started to look at how your feelings related to how you lived/worked?
I had been steadily pursuing a career that I thought was my dream (working in technology) when I found The Desire Map and The Fire Starter Sessions. The biggest lightbulb moment for me was (funny enough) during one of my 45-minute morning commutes. I had Danielle all the way up on my car speakers and she said, “Be careful what you’re good at, because you can end up doing it for years.”
I had moved up the ranks quickly as a Producer/Production Manager after starting out in Customer Support in the tech industry because I was a fast learner and was willing to pitch in on any issues that cropped up at work. I was a Jane of all trades, master of none.
When I started really thinking about what was driving my career and life, it was the desire to be FREE. I was working myself into the ground in technology because I believed the reward in the end would be an early retirement and financial freedom. But what’s that really all worth if I was killing myself with late nights and endless amounts of stress to get there?
The moment I decided to start pursuing a life that would help me feel free every day, doors opened up. I started spending more time with horses (a childhood love of mine), signed up for a ceramics class, pulled together my equine photography portfolio, and continued diving into Danielle’s work.
Less than a month later, I was presented with the opportunity to join Team D. I had a conversation with Danielle on a Friday night, and resigned from my tech job that Monday. Thank you, Universe. It’s truly amazing what can happen when you start putting your Core Desired Feelings first.
When you got clear on your CDFs were there any goals that you were chasing that fell to the way side? Did new or different goals/intentions emerge?
I stopped thinking about how big my bank account should be. Money is worth nothing if you’re trudging through life to earn it. I’m content now with just being content (vs. striving for the dollar), because I know I’m doing what I love.
Another huge realization came when I got clear on what my rock bottom would be. For my fiance and I, if we had to sell our house and possessions, we’d be stuck living in my mom’s small cottage on Maui. Not too bad, right? Thinking that through allowed me to let go of the fear I had been feeling about “losing everything” if I were to take a leap in the direction of my dreams.
What tunes are revving up your core desired feelings these days?
Grace Potter and the Nocturnals helps me feel Free. Daft Punk gets me revved up and Inspired. The Civil Wars for feeling Centered. Sara Bareilles gives me Joy.
What’s a goal that you’re focusing on this year?
Eating more greens + moving my body every day (even if only for 10 minutes). I’ve struggled with weight loss/gain all my life because I always felt like I had to do all or nothing when it came to my health. I’m focusing more on the small things I do now to improve my health, rather than stressing about every single meal.
What’s not working that you want to change?
I am a perfectionist + control freak, which has been great for my roles as Project Manager/Producer, but I’m slowly learning that above all else, action is key. I can plan every little detail until I’ve thought through each scenario + outcome, or I can just start the work and get something done.
Angie Wheeler (our Director of Operations and Master of Everything) turned me on to an essay by Heidi Grant Halvorson in the 99U book, Maximize Your Potential titled “Focusing on Better, Rather Than Being Good.” It helped change the way I think about how I work – it’s the idea of giving yourself permission to screw up, rather than killing yourself while striving for perfection.
I’m still working on letting go of my tendency to over-think, but it’s all about baby steps, right?
What are you feeling really grateful for?
My mom, Pat (my fiance), my team. I have so much to be grateful for. I pinch myself on a daily basis.
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