If you want to feel wild, aim to feel wild. Even if your life is anything but.
If you want to generate bad-ass sexiness, then you better declare bad-ass sexiness as a core desired feeling and not care what your mother has to say. (Because shrinking your desires due to your mother’s opinion wouldn’t be very bad ass.)
It does not matter what your coach thinks. Or your shrink. Or your partner.
You get to want to feel the way you want to feel.
Now… jamming with a dear friend or coach-type on finding juuuust the right feeling word — that’s not the same as seeking approval. That can be pure co-creative awesomeness. Your friend could help you up your desire, take you from declaring that you desire “caring” to something even richer like, “my core desired feeling is adoration.” They can also help you wash off any grandiosity. Like maybe the feeling of “appreciation” would serve you better than “famous” or “adoration” for that matter.
So, jam with people who love you to find the core desired feelings that will light up your life.
But if anyone’s got a problem with what you declare — take a deep breath into the center of your heart and say, “Well, the beauty of it all is I get to want to feel the way I want to feel.”