Naming your dissatisfaction (and gratitude) is a fundamental part of the desire mapping process. It’s part of becoming more conscious and more creative. The dark needs to be defined so you know where to shine some light.
When it comes to gratitude as a practice, I think we should let it rip. Fill up pages and pages in our journals, spend every second on our long commute to work listing off what we’re grateful for. We should ramble on and on and on. Gratitude is like love or fresh air — you can’t get too much of it.
But when it comes to our dissatisfaction, a litany of negatives isn’t going to lead to improvements. Too much dissatisfaction declaring turns to poison. It’s a good thing gone bad.
When it comes to pointing out the negatives, it’s best to practice some restraint. And not because we want to practice denial. To the contrary. We want to practice the art of our creating our lives, we want to wield the power of conscious choice. You have the power to select your emotions. You get to choose what to concentrate on and what you concentrate on gains momentum — it’s a cosmic principle.
PRACTICE: Ratios of dissatisfaction to gratitude
This week, every time you declare 1 negative about your life, your neighbor, your society … counter it with 7 gratefuls.
1 complaint. 7 thank yous.
1 pain point. 7 pleasurables.
1 despair. 7 joys.
This is important: Don’t try to “battle” or beat down the negatives with your positives. That’s silly New Ageism. The negatives are just as real, and just as valuable as the positives. We don’t want to create dueling realties. Just decide where you’re going to focus. One dissatisfaction, fine. Seven gratitudes, more fine.
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