getting to good ideas

Charlie Gilkey asked me how I get to good ideas. My answer:

Relentlessly search for the why behind the what.

“So why did you go bankrupt?” I asked my mentor-man.

“Because I was a drunk. But really, because I was greedy. I equated power with speed. I should have done half as much, twice as good.”

Note to self: Slow down, your time is coming.

“Why did you partner with her?” I asked the mega-firm CEO.

“Because every time I brought an idea to her, she made it better without losing the spirit of my reasoning. She consistently inspired me to be impeccable.”

Note to self: Partner with people who make you feel more like yourself. Seek the excellent ones.

I’ve got a guest post over at Charlie Gilkey’s place, Productive Flourishing.

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