give up hope (it’s a good thing to do. really.)

Hope: noun, verb.

Defined as: the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best; a person or thing in which expectations are centered; a four letter word that doesn’t amount to much.

Every word you speak or think lands somewhere – it’s heard by you, (and if not consciously, certainly by your unconscious mind,) by the people around you, by the Dream Fairy, The Universe, The Powers That Be.

So what kind of message does the word “hope” send out? How is Life, or your boss, or your partner supposed to interpret “hope?”

Hope doesn’t tell anybody where you really stand on an issue.

It doesn’t holler, Go get ‘em!, or declare, I wholeheartedly believe! or I’ll do whatever it takes.

Hope hangs out on the sidelines… just, you know, hoping. While expectation, optimism, and pragmatism are on the field playing the sport of life. Full on.

Maybe hoping is for sissies.
And if that’s true, then intention and faith are for heroes.

What if you banned the word hope from your vocabulary? Try this hope-replacement exercise. How do you feel with each of these statements?:

“I hope I’ll get the job.” BZZZZT! Reframe it.
“I really want to get the job.” (“Point taken,” says the Universe.)
“I’m praying to get that job.” (Prayer is an action too.)
“I have done all that I can do to get the job.” (Yes! Stand tall.)
“I will either get the job, or I won’t.” (Precisely. Now you can get on with your day.)
“I expect to end up with a job that I love.” (Excellent! Open-ended and affirmative!)

Do a Hope List. What are you hoping for? Opportunity to knock? The outcome to be positive? The test results to be negative? Replace “hope” with action words, reality words, intentional, faith-bounding, wide-open, change-agent hero words.

There are too many variables out of our control, yet many variables firmly within our control. It’s foolish to plant big desires on the sands of hope. It’s amazing what happens when you decide to not lean on hope (tho’ you may go through withdrawals at first, not having hope as dream-filler can be profoundly uncomfortable.)

When you move beyond hope, you take responsibility. You face facts. You see solutions that you didn’t see before. You stand in the present.

Hope less. Realize more.

 

 

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