The light choice is the right choice. Don’t say yes until it feels … light.

Does it feel light, or does it feel heavy?

An idea surfaces. An opportunity. A fork in the road. A big decision. Little decisions that make up your life.

And maybe it sounds right or looks good at first. It could make you money. It’s there for the taking. It’d be easy to pull off. We so know how to do this. It’s in our wheelhouse. I’ve done it before. Easy. It’s “on-brand.” They’ll love this. They expect this. They want this. They’re clamouring for this. Let’s give them what they want. It seems like the next logical step. Let’s move in together, we’ll save on rent.

But…

Does it feel light, or does it feel heavy?

The truth of feelings trumps the strategy of logic.

It’s so simple it’s brilliantly clarifying: Does it feel light, or does it feel heavy? It works for creative focus, and money management, and dinner reservations. It works for deciding where to give your time, your expertise, your Love, your devotion.

Light-based choosing lights you up. You feel a sense of expansion. You feel slightly or immensely relieved. You can hear your invisible support squad saying, “Uhhuh, we got ya.”

Now here’s the thing. The “light” choice, isn’t necessarily the easy choice. Light is RIGHT. Light will return your investment. Light is deeeeep fulfillment. And, the light choice may require courage, and sweat, and a ruddy determination. The light choice may look crazy to everyone else.

But what’s the alternative? Heavy. And heavy brings resentment, and constricted self expression, and it’s anything but good times, or sexy, or … LIGHT.

Don’t say Yes until it feels light.

 

 

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