Do you love your problems? Because that would be helpful.

I’m in the middle of a grinding conversation with publishing collaborators: “If we do A, then B happens, so what if we do X instead?” Brows are furrowed. We’re workin’ this problem like a piece of gum. Silent pauses. We’re thinking… thinking. Arguing our points. It’s tense and kind of wonderful.

“Hey, by the way everyone,” I raise my hand for pause, “I just want you to know, I LOVE this shit. This is my idea of fun.” And on we plod. I can respect the challenges because I know I’m going the distance with my calling. And I know that — and I mean this in the most pragmatically joyous sense — life is just one damn thing after another.

Love your problems — really love them, and the solutions appear.

Do you love the kind of problems that you have in your relationship? Like, can you love the fact that your “work” as a couple is to deepen intimacy? That’s some hard work. But can you honour that that’s your work to do?

Can you love the problems inherent in your industry? The challenges that come with the goals you’ve set? The hoops you have to jump through to get what you want the most?

If you can’t love the hassles, maybe you’re in the wrong place. Pick the battles that are for the best cause, your higher good — it will bolster your strength instead of wearing you down.

If you can’t love the challenges that come with your territory, you should consider moving elsewhere. To where you find problems that are more loveable and satisfying — because there are plenty of them, and they need your willingness to be solved.

related posts
Danielle-LaPorte-Free-and-Clear-Letting-Go

Examining our expectations and what it means to deeply let go.

Whether you need to perform major surgery on your commitments, or you need to just blow some shit up and walk away, healthy letting go requires mindfulness. So let’s really feel and think this through to get you free and clear.

Resources for emotional trauma support for you and people you love-Danielle-LaPorte

Resources for emotional trauma support for you and people you love.

Resources for emotional trauma support for you and people you love.

Desire-Map-Free-and-Clear-Retrspective

RETROSPECTION: Your first Q&A of FREE & CLEAR!

THE RETROSPECTION exercise goes deep, and does it quickly. You’ll have 5 minutes to answer a big reflection question, and from there…we start to peel back the layers to clarity. If you want to find out, you have to go in.

Danielle-LaPorte-Free-and-Clear

FREE and CLEAR: a (free) 6-week INTROSPECTION guided experience.

FREE and CLEAR: A 6 week Guided Experience Re-set so you can start fresh. Clear your head so you can make some great plans.

Dear God, help me out with the basics, would you-Danielle-LaPorte

Dear God, help me out with the basics, would you?

Show me how to love the ones that are like, really hard to love. The misogynists and boundary bullies, the fake leaders and land-rapers. Actually, for the sake of efficiency, just show me how to love the most greedy. That should cover it. (But while we’re at it, help me out with the Mean Girls, ‘cause like, whoa.)

Your esteem and your money-Danielle-LaPorte

Your esteem and your money.

Your esteem and your money. Here’s a money-saving tip that also happens to be a radical counter-cultural act of defiance.

FSS People

Conscious career-generators! I’m starting something new. For you.

Conscious career-generators! I’m starting something new. For you.

How to hone your truth detector-Danielle-LaPorte

How to hone your truth detector.

There’s so much faking it to make it and deception happening in every sector of life — from politics to self-improvement. So how can we hone our truth detectors?

Women, boundaries, and spirituality. The perfect storm.

Women, boundaries, and spirituality. The perfect storm.

In my experience, boundary obliviousness is part of the initiation into wholeness. I don’t think you have to warrior your whole life for it, but it’s a passage to self-agency that most women seem to have to go through. Boundaries help us expand our consciousness.

What becomes possible when you say No?

What becomes possible when you say No?

What becomes possible when you say No? What would open up? Shift. Lighten. Crumble. Dissolve. Melt.

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This