monthly round up: october was…gripping, generous + golden

: spiritual salve for worrywarts. There’s pain all around us. It’s tempting to fret, pace, yank your hair…and worry yourself into the ground. But it’s not pro-active. So refuse to do it. TRANSFORM ANXIETY INTO ACTION, and be helpful, instead of harrowed.

: transparency as a teaching tool. As Malcolm Gladwell says, “Authenticity is the new cool.” So give details. Name names. Spell it out. And share your Big Emotion Moments. Dig into my TRIED AND TRUE transparency techniques to rock your blog, your biz, and your authenticity barometer.

: self-flagellation, posing as purity. Minimalism is the go-to trend across the blogosphere. I’m all for white space, clarity and concision — but there’s a dark side to the de-cluttering movement. Fear, loathing and self-denial can masquerade as “right action.” And that ain’t right. AFFIRM YOUR GOODNESS, not your lack.

: deeply influential literary gems. I love books. Understatement of the eon. So I offered up a three-part catalogue of books you oughta absorb: 9 books that could deeply influence how you live, 9 books for deepening how you create + work, and 5 books for navigating the complexities of love. Your winter reading list = sorted. And you’re welcome.


: talkin’ aesthetics + functionality with Snoack Studios. Shannon of Snoack Studios interviewed me this month. And she got me to admit that I’m a “creative control freak.” Deal with it. READ THE FULL INTERVIEW.

: juggling + philosophizing with Wicked Whimsy. Michelle of Wicked Whimsy peppered me with questions about corporate ladders, spirituality and cashflow. Also — she has sapphire hair, like a peacock. Worth a peek, for that fact alone. READ THE FULL INTERVIEW.

Into November, onward + upward + forward, forever…

related posts

What’s underneath wishful thinking?

Wishful thinking is tangled up with craving. We want what we want. So we ignore the evidence that we’re very likely not going to get what we want out of a situation. Craving… wishing. Craving… denial. Craving… tolerating. It’s a wishous cycle.


Don’t worry about being invited back. My Manifesto for Creativity.

Meaningfulness. Reveal myself. Be compassionate. Don’t worry about being invited back. Go there. xo. I jotted this down when I began writing my book. I wanted a manifesto and it had to happen quickly because…I had a book to write.


Life is what happens on the way to the finish line.

If you’re not loving what it feels like between your various life destinations, then get off the ride. Burn the itinerary. Fuck “motivation” and be still long enough to find your inspiration.


Let the Love in. Because, “It’s an honour to help you.”

I was in a spiritual tizzy — that’s an esoteric term for 80% emotions-running-wild, and 20% having faith that everything will work out. I can’t remember what it was over (probably divorce papers, or a publishing contract, or buying a house. But it involved documents and beaucoup emotion.)


What to do after you have a breakthrough. (You’re going to shrink after you expand, so, listen closely.)

Threshold, crossed. You got there. After the grinding, the repetitive strain, the cord-cutting, the screams of release, the bliss of relief — the training paid off. Muscle burn got you across the finish line. Soul fire resurrected you. BREAKTHROUGH.


Why jerks show up in your life.

We attract jerks to burn karma — old agreements to be broken in current time, vows to be rescinded, slates to be wiped clean. We attract jerks for contrast — jerks show us what deception and manipulation feels like. They show us how we DON’T want to feel — which is excellent intel for knowing how we DO want to feel.

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The epidemic of the brittle woman and the salvation of softness

You know her. Maybe you are her. Or you were. Sisters, please don’t become her. Sisters (and brothers), let’s heal her. She’s giving up on love and life. Sometime, as a result of having to try too hard to get her very essential Soul needs met she… just… got… worn…down. She had no choice but to stiffen. Then she realized that she had a choice.

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5 pointers for developing freedom-based creativity & work habits. Which is to say, you’ve got to dissolve guilt and rock your own rhythm.

A note on CREATIVE FLOW…. I’m “working” today. Wasn’t planning on it. It’s a sunny, gorgeous Vancouver Sunday. But since my kid is running around the block with his neighbour buddies, I’m using this time to write, respond, vision.

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Are you hanging by a thread?

It’s hard. It’s wrenching. It’s incredibly painful and it’s difficult to feel lightness. Or to see clearly. Hanging by a thread can be really disorienting. What you’re going through undeniably sucks. It may be hard to believe right now, but not only will it be okay, not only will you get through and over this, you will thrive again…

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in praise of women: magnificent, spacious, fiery witnesses

I often hear “women are our own worst enemies” in terms of our culture. I’m tired of that argument. I think everyone is their own worst enemy, and I don’t think it’s about something women have specifically against each other.

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