notes to my 20 year old self
I’m turning 40 in a few weeks. Bizarre. Surreal. Cannot believe it. Just yesterday I was ecstatically getting the hell out of high school, wearing shoulder pads and stilettos underneath my graduation gown; knowing full well that the world was my oyster and that extra-hold hair mousse would get me through almost any encounter. I can hardly believe that I can say, “twenty years ago…” about anything.
Dear Danielle at 20:
- Algebra really is useless.
- Credit cards are mostly evil.
- Talk is cheap.
- If he doesn’t stay until morning, he’s probably married or deeply insecure.
- There is no soul mate. I know, this is particularly hard news to take because you are longing for The One 24-7. But, guess what, The One is The One because you say he/she is. And that’s way more liberating and empowering than anything preordained or supposedly destined.
- And while we’re ‘dising cosmic romanticism – there’s no such thing as destiny. Life really is what you make it.
- Tragedy happens. Yes, everything happens for a reason, but life can be cruel and wrenching and while it all comes out in the cosmic wash, some souls collide and mistakes do happen.
- Louise Hay is a magnificent woman, but there is more to the machinations of life, illness, and cosmology than the simple explanations offered by You Can Heal Your Life. Cancer is not necessarily a result of repressed guilt, and you may not necessarily choose to heal your life this time around – that’s okay. Illness doesn’t make you a New Age Loser.
- Diplomacy is overrated.
- If your boss tries to french kiss you, it’s out of bounds.
- Only lend books if you don’t want them back.
- Go to more concerts.
- If you don’t kiss girls in your twenties, you’ll probably never get around to trying it out. You should try it out.
- You’re right – kindness is one of the most powerful natural resources there is…infinitely renewable.
- Your feelings are exceedingly more useful than your ability to rationalize your fears or other people’s poor behaviour.
- Your heart…your heart…your heart is where it’s at.
- When you turn 40, you shall be rocking like never before, grateful for absolutely everything, and you will finally, finally feel like earth is home…for the most part.