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Mon, 10 Aug 2009 05:00:13 +0000

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By: Traci

Traci — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 02:37:28 +0000

This...

You can be sure that your sex life is a microcosm of the macrosm of your entire life. Deep but quiet. Repressed. Rigorous. Loving but slightly aggressive. Playful and sweet. Dutiful. Whatever is going down in the sack is going â€˜round in your life as a greater theme.

...was a total mind-f*#k. In the best way.
Zing!

By: Laura Wershler

Laura Wershler — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 16:19:33 +0000

Danielle,

What a lovely invitation to us all, and that is all we really need - an invitation - to open up about the sexual part of our lives. I've been a sexual health advocate for over 20 years. The org I work for, Sexual Health Access Alberta, is distributing 250,000 copies of a free guide for parents called: It's Easier Than You Think: Talking With Your Children About Sexual Health and Well-Being. The goal of this brochure is to encourage and support parents to make conversations about sexuality a normal part of family life. If we do this, we raise a generation of young people who will do just what your post suggests.
As adults, partners, friends, parents or grandparents we all have a role to play in creatng a comfortable environment in which talking about sex, sexuality, sexual issues, etc, etc is seen as normal and appropriate within the various contexts of our lives.

Anyone can download our brochure as a pdf from http://www.sexualhealthaccess.org. I encourage parents or any adult who mentors young people or those who want to learn more about how to talk about sexual issues to check out this resource. I never thought about it before, but the talking tips for parents could, with a wee bit of adapting, just as easily be applied to adults talking to other adults about sexuality. Thanks for the post, Danielle.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 03:11:06 +0000

I have been saying for years that if we don't start talking about this subject, at the very least with the people we are closest to then we will never be able to fully grasp it. Here is to talking about it opening with the ones we love and trust the most and here is to a great sex life with yourself or others for years to come.

By: Lauren Harkness

Lauren Harkness — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:52:43 +0000

YES!!! Love this post! Thank you!

By: Dee

Dee — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:30:51 +0000

Amen! (No pun intended, or ok, maybe a little. ;-))
I think Dr. Laura Berman put it best in one of her sessions with Oprah (think of her what you will everyone, but don't dismiss this point): masturbation allows every young adult to know their body, with the effect that young women will actually be less tempted to go to certain bases or places with young men. Why? Because they know they don't need said young men to make them feel nice and tingly. (Yes, I'm paraphrasing. But in essence, it's take control of your own pleasure, love yourself, and then relationships can evolve!) :-)

By: @julie_k

@julie_k — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 17:55:37 +0000

Right back atcha.. been thrumming and actually DOING since you left us here in Minneapolis!

By: Danielle LaPorte

Danielle LaPorte — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 17:50:22 +0000

"secrecy isn't always part of sacred." I need to make a poster out of that. thank you.

By: Danielle LaPorte

Danielle LaPorte — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 17:49:15 +0000

yah - it would be great of policy makers and churches made the connection btwn repression and teen pregnancy. abstinence preaching does not count as open conversation.

By: Danielle LaPorte

Danielle LaPorte — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 17:47:38 +0000

whoa: "if you examine your sexuality its easy to see how power/lessness plays a role in your life." bang on, uh, so to speak.