so 7 chicks get into a hot tub… why personal development is profitable

I was in Santa Fe New Mexico this month for the Transformational Speaking Intensive with master trainer, Gail Larsen. It was a mind-altering experience that will inform my self-expression for years. More on that later.

On the last night of the workshop Gail; maestro fresh master coach Susan Hyatt; champion of soulful service Jennifer Louden; unabashedly feminine coach, Julie Daley; clairvoyant (fer real) Naturopath Dr. Diane Chung; the Muse you dream of, Dyana Valentine; and yours truly were hot tubbing in the heavenly hills, talking about…Twitter, cash flow, and cosmic consciousness, of course.


Dyana: I got all these new Twitter followers this week and, like, I’ve barely been on-line. Don’t know where they’re coming from.

Me: thinking to myself…hmmm…I sold lotsa Fire Starters Sessions, and got all these requests this week for one-on-one clients, even tho’ I just doubled the fee and haven’t been on-line in a week.

Dr. Diane: Whenever I do a workshop or retreat, my receptionist calls me to say, “Um, what’s going on? Because the phone is ringing off the hook with new patients.”

It’s the inner work that’s doing the work.

the hot tub cosmic profitably theory:

work more on yourself, and the business will work more for you.

dissolve your misconceptions of deserving, and cash flows.

it’s all energy, baby.

We neglected our families and our businesses for six days.
We moved energy. We pursued answers, we asked ourselves new questions.
We cried hard and laughed harder. We spoke little of our actual careers until we came out of the zone of inquiry and training.

Move the energy before you make a move for the results.

Want to write a killer chapter? Take a bath.
Want the check to arrive? Give some money away.
Want the love to come? Dance it out in your living room.

Want to slam down your to do list? Take the day off.

It’s not always a doing.
It’s a new seeing.
And people see you back.


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