Stop Doing. (AKA detangling, liberating, and facing some gnarly terror.)

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Hello Loves,

Let’s jump right in. You’re going to create a STOP DOING list. I do this two or three times a year for myself and I always feel like I’ve just taken a cold plunge (or had a good colonic—is that TMI?)

WEEK 4: STOP DOING

In terms of being successful (meaning YOUR definition of personal success), what you stop doing is just as important as what you start doing. Full stop. I know this to be true in my own life, over and over again.

INSPIRATION
for stopping, letting go, and enlightened quitting

I asked Seth Godin what he’d put on his Stop Doing List. As ever, he was profound and… clear:

From Seth: I will stop…

  1. Keeping score in games I don’t need to win.
  2. Keeping score in games I can’t win.
  3. Wasting time on people I can’t please.
  4. Ignoring the side effects of my personal choices.
  5. Giving into the resistance without realizing I am.
  6. Reading my Amazon reviews.
  7. Letting other people decide if I am doing a good job.
  8. Trying so hard when it comes to persuading other people to change their minds.
  9. Making lists like this one. Except now.
  10. Cleaning industrial dough mixers.
  11. Walking into glass doors.
  12. Biking without a helmet.
  13. Cutting large blocks of Styrofoam while barefoot.
  14. Working for jerks.

ENCOURAGEMENT
for stopping, letting go, and enlightened quitting

  1. No New Age sugar-coating. Letting go can be tough. (The range: from mildly inconvenient to nerve-wrackingly brutal). Face it and you’ll free up some energy to do what needs to be done. Fewer illusions = more courage.
  2. Stopping can be so easy. I’ve always loved this perspective from Ralph Blum (he wrote a great book on The Runes) “We are not doers we are deciders. And once we decide, the doing becomes easy.” Boom.
  3. Close your eyes and imagine this: A kind of liberation that borders on orgasmic. Yep, letting go of what’s been weighing you down can be that good.
  4. Letting go and/or quitting can radically increase your odds for being happier. Out of, say, 334 people* I’ve talked to about letting go—of both material and emotional things, 97% of them have no regrets, 88% of them wished they’d done it sooner, and only a mere 3% are still confused. (*Random, intuitive and inconclusive data, but still—immensely inspiring, don’t you think?)Free and Clear Stop Doing
  5. Dramatic decisions don’t have to be high-drama. You may need a good cry in the bathtub when you decide to call it quits on something big, but the resolve and the relief that pours into your nervous system will help you steer steady.
  6. The future is always more exciting than the past.

Enter: THE STOP DOING LIST. Prepare for massive relief. I tend to stay away from big self-help claims but, this is potentially life changing. Or at least sanity-saving. I’m excited for you.

Download your STOP DOING worksheet here.

Let’s jam on this together TOMORROW: Wednesday, October 31, on the @desiremap Instagram at 12pm PST | 3pm EST.

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Facebook: I’ll be streaming live in the Desire Map Facebook Group. The video will appear at the top of the group page.

CATCH THE REPLAY anytime on @desiremap’s IGTV or in the Desire Map Facebook Group.

Stopping what’s distracting, draining, or aggravating doesn’t require any heavy lifting or extra stamina—just Love and self-respect.

All Love,

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Around the corner…
FREE & CLEAR is taking a sharp turn and we’re heading toward GRATITUDE next week. It’s sweet and uplifting and it’s proven to be good for our brain chemistry.

Before you go…
Spotify Playlist: STOP AND SHAKE IT OUT

Tunes: Some tunes for clearing it OUT…

  • Shake It Out, Florence & the Machine
  • Shake Me Down, Cage The Elephant
  • Shake It Up, The Cars
  • Shake Your Body (Down To The Ground), The Jacksons
  • Shake Shake Shake, Majid Jordan
  • Shake It Off, Mariah Carey
  • Shake It Off, Ryan Adams
  • Shake It On, Jamiroquai
  • Shake Your Groove Thing, Peaches & Herb

More+: I’ve written a lot about stopping, quitting, and saying goodbye. May it be of service in your own STOP DOING declarations:


 

PS: Help a friend stop, drop, and clear it out. Press send.

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What you Stop Doing is just as important as what you Start Doing.
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