The Principles of Active Waiting vs. feeling-like-a-loser, losing-your-mind kind of waiting…

I’ve learned a lot about waiting in the last while. I can’t say I’m a fan of waiting for what I want but I’ve finally learned to harness the waiting periods in a new way. Some might call it the virtue of patience, but I’ll never admit to becoming patient. I have a reputation to protect.

Inactive waiting is total hell. It’s a sure way to get stuck, slip into complaining, and let your creativity get all flabby. You put things on hold. You start paying rent in One Day Some Day Town. You see everything around you as “not quite what I’m waiting for.” And then you get into all the nasty new-age sponsored self-down talk, “Why aren’t I manifesting what I want? What am I doing wrong?”

Beloveds! There is another way. I hope this is one of those times that, since I’ve learned the hard way, you know, took one for the cosmic team, you can just take notes from me and bypass the “feeling like a loser, losing your mind” kind of waiting. Step right up…

THE PRINCIPLES OF ACTIVE WAITING

Regard the waiting period as an opportunity! This is major. This is IT. Decompression time, ebb to the flow, calm before the storm. Extra time to get in better shape, clean out your closet, get your finances in order so when the bigger money comes, it’s put to best use. Make room for the love that’s sure to come. I was at a friend’s cluttered apartment and he was saying how much he wanted to have a live-in girlfriend. And I was like, “Dude, where would she put her stuff?” He got his tidy on to make space for the live-in love he was waiting to find. That’s active waiting — happily preparing for what you trust is on its way to you.

Make space in your life for the inevitable arrival of what you want.

Waiting time is the best self-love assignment, ever. Of course the hot romance will fill a space in your life, and of course the big career win is going to be incredibly fulfilling. But without those things, you are still supreme. You’re good today. And when you tap that self assuredness, that bedrock of dignity and self worth, something so ironically divine happens: you become less crazed about getting what you’re waiting for, and you become more likely to get it because you’re radiating dignity, calm and love. It’s the circle of manifestation.

Take solace in the fact that you’ve done all that you can do. This is a really gratifying place to be in. You’ve put in your time, you’ve pulled all the strings you can reach. You’ve lined up your ducks, planted your seeds. Nuthin’ to do now but… wait. You’ve shown up. You’ve met the universe half way. Good job. Focus on the rest of your life now.

Distract yourself with presence. This is the best kind of Jedi mind trick. You can see what you want on the horizon, and you look at your life today and say, “There is so much right here that I’ve been waiting for.” Both are true.

 

 

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