Ask three friends this question:
“On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being ‘unreliable loser’ and 10 being ‘phenomenally rock solid’, how reliable would you say I am?”
It takes some daring to ask this question of others. But if you wanna go pro in the integrity department, sometimes you do have to keep score.
Think of a few occasions where you were a bonafide flake and let someone down — not because your car broke down, or an act of God held you back — but because you spaced out, or let fear get the best of you or were less than awesome. (Think about your acts of loser-ness without coming down too hard on yourself. We’re just doing some research here.)
So, how did you feel being a bonafide flake?
And, what feelings are the opposite of the emotions you felt from letting someone down?
Who’s the first person/thing that comes to mind with this question: Who are you trying to impress?
Positive or negative, how do you feel about trying to impress someone?
Back to the bright side …
Recall some times when you came through with flying colours for your friends, family or team. You did exactly what you said you were going to do, and then some.
What feelings do you associate with reliable?
Integrity tracker. Optional. For fun. Maybe.
For one day, or even a week, keep track of all the things you say to people that you’re going to do for them. Transactional, promises, on-going commitments, big new intentions, wooing. Pay attention to what comes out of your mouth, “I’ll send you that link, I’ll be there at five, I’ll call you and let you know, I’ll talk to you soon.”
Do you do what you say you’re going to do? Precisely? Loosely? Thereabouts?