Licensing Program Case Study Vanessa Crites


Vanessa Crites

Desire Map Facilitator

Core Desired FeelingsWell-Loved, Sacred, Wildly Open, Ease

The greatest impact for me in facilitating is not only that I get to walk other women through it, but that every time I do, I get to have my own brand new experience with Desire Mapping.”

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Q: What does it mean to you to be a Desire Map Facilitator?

The Desire Map is a road map: every person and experience is unique with detours and pit stops and water breaks, and it can be challenging, painful, frightening — and yet beautifully liberating, transformational and electric. It really is wonderful work.

I believe that at our truest core, we all just want to be seen and reflected back, to be witnessed. To commune and experience love, recognition, approval. We want the freedom to explore our thoughts, history, patterns, pain, longing, and desire in a safe and sacred environment, without judgment or the need to explain ourselves. We all want, at our deep heart, to know that there is a hand reaching out to hold ours. It’s my job to do that.

Q: What was the moment you knew you’d chosen the right path to become a Desire Map Facilitator?

I knew at the close of my first evening session. The evening was fluid and beautiful and easy. Everyone had left, and my best friend and I were standing in the kitchen just looking at each other in reverent silence.

“I am made to do this,” I said.

She looked at me and said, “Yeah, Vanessa. You really are.”

Q: Where were you, in life or business, before you become a Desire Map Facilitator?

In late 2014, I made the very difficult decision to walk away from a 20-year relationship for the second time. I felt like I was living in the shadows, and suffering had become a very unwelcomed inhabitant. Having been familiar with Danielle’s work for years, I asked for The Desire Map for Christmas, read it in two days, Desire Mapped for the first time on New Year’s, purchased the license on opening day, and held my first workshop that March.

I still work full-time as a Specialty Food Broker and love the work I do. I schedule about six workshops a year and call it my “heart” job.

Q: How did becoming a Desire Map facilitator impact your life and business?

I LOVE this work. The greatest impact for me in facilitating is not only that I get to walk other women through it, but that every time I do, I get to have my own brand new experience with Desire Mapping. My CDFs have remained the same through four workshops, but to stay ever present in the language and practice of Desire Mapping has been invaluable to me.

Plus, I’ve become a part of an incredible sisterhood tribe where I have made some dear close friends. I feel supported, am held accountable, and am walking shoulder-to-shoulder in a world where I once felt completely alone.

Q: What’s one of your favourite memories of being a Desire Map Facilitator?

I had a participant arrive so quiet, timid, frightened. She felt weak and unseen. She explained that it hurt to be alive (her body, her heart, her spirit) and just couldn’t imagine ever not feeling that way. She showed up raw and vulnerable and ready. About mid-way through the second day I was given a great gift: I got to witness hope experienced in the life of a woman who had none when she crossed my threshold. A light came on and liberation followed. The Desire Map provided the path but she did the work. I am washed with tearful gratitude just writing this.

We keep up with each other on Facebook and she is keeping this work, her CDFs and her intentions alive every day.

Testimonials from workshop attendees

“My awareness of the passing of time vanished. Magical. I ended up cracking open more than I could have possibly imagined as Vanessa created a safe, beautiful, yummy, and comfy space. It was remarkable to feel seen after a lifetime of invisibility — both imposed and elective. I am feeling most grateful for the clarity I have now.

The energy Vanessa radiates is a gift I would love to share. I imagine people are going to notice the changes in me as I integrate what I learned, and I can tell them exactly where I peeled back the layers to get to the juicy core.”


“Vanessa had an amazing ability to create an emotionally safe environment for us that encouraged trust and openness. She also made sure we were well nourished with gorgeous food prepared with pure intention! The workshop was Intense. Uninhibited. Love. Acceptance. Connection. Powerful. and Beautiful. I truly, truly, truly did not want it to end!”


“Being in a group is so much more powerful than working on my “stuff” alone. Some of my CDFs were predictable, while others were not. I attribute that to the process of the workshop and the input from Vanessa and others.

My biggest takeaway was that I’m a “glass-half-empty” person. That blindsided me. I pride myself on wanting to “work on myself” but realized I often don’t appreciate what I have, and I see the world through the lens of what’s not working. That has stuck with me every day since the workshop, and I’m working on truly appreciating what I have. It’s made a huge difference in my moods, outlook, and how I view the world each day.”


“My experience was everything I had hoped for and more! Right when I walked in the door, Vanessa greeted me with a big smile and a hug welcoming me. The women that I met at the workshop were open, honest and REAL! I felt safe to share the vulnerable side of myself. There was never any judgment from any of the attendees, but rather love, support and encouragement. This workshop is life-changing. It’s such a different way to look at life. It makes me look forward to finding new ways to help myself feel my Core Desired Feelings.”


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