what would you like to stop doing?

When someone has the good sense and conviction to stop doing what’s not working for them, well, it calls for a national holiday. The brilliance of simplification needs to be celebrated!

It often goes like this:

I’m going to stop:

“Being stingy with myself.”
“Worrying what others will think of me and just go for it.”
“Worrying that I will be called out as a fraud. (I have classic impostor syndrome.)”
“Worrying so much.”
“Worrying that other people are mad at me.”
“I’d like to stop being so fucking self-conscious.”
“Working with that client — every time I see her name in my in-box, I get a sick feeling in my stomach.”
“Cleaning my kids’ rooms for them.”
“Planning every date with my man when, really, I want him to plan our dates.”
“Undercharging, underearning, underselling myself.”

I’ll add to the list. I would like to stop staying up too late, like, so late that I look at my Sonicare electric toothbrush and think, I’m so glad you do the work for me. I’d like to stop losing my shit with inept customer service people who are not only robotically dis-empowered to act with commonsense, but who are entirely numb to the options of excellence (see, clearly I have hangs up with mediocrity and policy.) I would like to stop thinking that THAT pair of shoes will change the course of my life. I would like to stop making excuses for not going to more concerts, more live music events and more theatre. I would like to stop thinking that if So-and-So gets over it, THEN I’ll get over too.

Now….may we turn our “would like to stop’s” into done deals. Close your eyes and beam out from your heart great waves of liberating love to everyone reading this, that we may turn away from that which holds us back, and start doing more of that which pulls us forward.

Stop. And…start.

Ever true,

So, what would you like to stop doing?

 

related posts
^E1CFFDF9D213DCD421AF321F263914146A310A11C12D9DC0D1^pimgpsh_fullsize_distr

You are worthy of your desires

To say no.

To say yes.

To have your deepest needs met.

To be seen.

To be loved for what is seen.

Featured @2x 456x456 (2)

Pressed against a star (a poem for longing to be home.)

You are worth waiting for,
tall beam of Light.
And I will open the door for you like our lives depend on it.

Featured @2x 456x456

Feminism is consciousness. Lessons for my imaginary daughter & women — including Kim Kardashian.

All communication begins with intention. A loving word, or flipping someone the bird. A treatise on feminism, or an ageist tweet out to your peers.

@angie.byrd@2x

Use your wings #Truthbomb elaborations

You’re cosmic. You are winged with light. And that means you have the power to get where you want to go, to see what’s really going on in a situation, to make excellent decisions.

Featured @2x 456x456 (1)

Walking away, music history, and not trying to heal other people. 9 of the Best Things I Ever Did (Volume 2)

I walked away. I held out. I weathered the craving to compromise. And wow, guys, having heart-centered high standards pays off. Big time. Life meets you where you honour yourself.

Featured @2x 456x456

Recovering from self-help exhaustion? Join the club.

My friend Jess Ortner and I had a great conversation about the downer of always trying to be up. Perfect for her podcast called Adventures in Happiness. This is one of my favourite, truly useful conversations for being on the so-called “Path”.

Featured @2x 456x456

Self help + helpful cynicism. A very real conversation about modern spirituality between girlfriends.

Emelia and I go about things from different ends and get close to the same bright center — real, no bullshit compassion. Put on the kettle and listen in.

Featured @2x 456x456

Just don’t expect crazy people to be sane (cause that’s crazy).

There’s so much sanity to just flowing with someone’s predictability— their norm, their nature. Accept it. Forgive it. Just tolerate it; or peace out if you don’t want it in your life. But don’t waste too much time trying to change it.

Featured @2x 456x456

6 opinions on having a creative opinion. (But only my opinions. Because…opinionated.)

May your heart be sweet. May your mind be clear. May your opinions be strong.

Featured @2x 456x456

How gentleness creates the big breakthrough

The most powerful practice of all has nothing to do with motivation or endurance. The most powerful pain remedy, elixir, solution, galvanizer, waker-upper, injection of strength is…gentleness.

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This