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By: you will love these women « digressica.com

you will love these women « digressica.com — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 10:09:21 +0000

[...] Lately I’ve really enjoyed her pieces, 11 Slightly scary ways to become a better you, How to apologise and 11 Tips for dealing with criticism. [...]

By: Dealing with Criticism â€“ Be Constructive! (Part I: How to Receive Criticism) | WHAKATE

Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:34:14 +0000

[...] her blog, White Hot Truth, Danielle LaPorte responds to a reader’s query by offering eleven tips for dealing with [...]

By: Handling Criticism

Handling Criticism — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 07:36:59 +0000

[...] researching online today I came across 11 Tips for Dealing with Criticism by the fascinating Danielle LaPorte on her White Hot Truth blog. I suggest you have a good read of [...]

By: Setting yourself up for success « Being … on Purpose

Setting yourself up for success « Being … on Purpose — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 00:42:32 +0000

[...] in my present state of mind, I refer to Danielle Laporteâ€™s article â€“ a must read if you ask me (http://www.daniellelaporte.com/business-wealth-articles/11-tips-for-dealing-with-criticism/). The part of crying and confusion completely resonates. Compassionate thoughts: I ask myself: [...]

By: When I Grow Up - The Blog » Blog Archive » Freakin’ (Great Links) Friday: Installment 13

Fri, 06 Feb 2009 16:47:19 +0000

[...] 11 Tips for Dealing with Criticism on White Hot Truth should be read for #7 alone: “Don’t take any shit.” [...]

By: Natasha

Natasha — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 02:49:04 +0000

I feel like I've co-opted you as my life coach, but I love your style and you totally say exactly what I need to hear in a way that doesn't make me think of all my previous f*ck-ups, but makes me hopeful for future encounters. I send forth unending gratitude!

By: Bravewolf

Bravewolf — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 18:15:14 +0000

Thanks for the tips - they make sense for dealing with criticism and treating it as a learning experience. I used to be in the military and had a whole range of people for supervisors. The problem with the military is that there is a huge leeway for people to be unrelentingly critical without being helpful due to the whole rank structure. When the chain of command works, it's one of the best ways ever of monitoring people and helping them improve. When it's not, it's one of the worst. I had one of the worst. I felt like I was stupid and couldn't do anything competently. My supervisors didn't really disabuse me of this notion until I had already had a breakdown. I left the military with a lot of baggage and I still can't handle criticism without feeling like a loser. I'm working on getting a better perspective on criticism as a tool not a weapon, but it's taking a long time. Thanks for your tips; I'm going to try using them in my daily life.

By: Danielle LaPorte

Danielle LaPorte — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:37:17 +0000

@ Confuzed Girl : "knowing" is a muscle that needs to be worked. So it's usually best to take steps - any steps - rather than staying stuck in fear. And re: being the bad guy. No one said being awake and white hot was easy. But it is so worth it.

By: ConfuzedGirl

ConfuzedGirl — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 09:30:39 +0000

What if there is no clarity? You are so confused between your heart and your brain and your gut that you don't know which way is up? How do you come to the best conclusion? And how do you deal with being the "bad guy"?

By: Danielle LaPorte

Danielle LaPorte — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 07:53:19 +0000

okay, clearly we've created a space here for Big Questions. Right on. My immediate thoughts: you're not responsible for other peoples feelings, ever. Deliver everything with clarity, standing firm, and a drop of honey. And to spin one of the finest sayings ever: the truth sets EVERYONE free.
xo