Are we each other's reflection? Yes. And No.
Fellow Self Help Keener,
I know you KNOW that we’re all connected and “oneness consciousness” is on your to-do list. We ARE interconnected. Howevah! This Truth needs some discernment when applied. Because not every jerk that comes into your life is a reflection of your own shadowy repressed inner jerkness.
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I am a 100% yes to the theory that we attract certain people into our lives to teach us certain things. And—everyone is not your complete reflection. Here’s what I mean…
False. We bring a jerk into our life. If we’re striving to be conscious and connective, we then ask ourselves, Where am *I* being a jerk? How is this a reflection of my own… jerkness? It’s a wise question that can expand your perspective so you can make more illuminated choices.
However—and this is a big however because this is where discernment comes in—the danger in reflection theory is this: misplaced responsibility. We might take the emphasis off the other person’s accountability and we become over-responsible. If we think that on some level we’re a jerk, too, we might let the other person’s bad behavior slide.
Maybe what’s really happening is this… That jerk didn’t come into your life to show you where you have the same faults and crappy similarities. Maybe they showed up to help you to look at your underlying belief that it's your job to fix other people. Or maybe they’re showing you the lack of self-worth pattern you have for putting up with bullshit. Maybe the jerk is there to help you say, “I'm done with this.”
You’re probably not a jerk… so why do they keep showing up?
Are you attracting jerks because you’re a jerk? Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes the jerk is there to show you how you do NOT want to feel or be treated—because contrast is one of our most powerful teachers. The flipside: what they may be here to illuminate is how you DO want to feel and who you truly are.
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