The (All New!) Ask-A-Friend Survey... and my bestie & me getting cozy
Candis Hoey Hairstylist, Victoria, BC Core Desired Feelings: Grace. Generosity. Intention.
Danielle LaPorte Writer/Speaker. Vancouver, BC Core Desired Feelings: Golden. Union. Shakti. Joy. Truth.
1. So, like, what do you most love about me?
Danielle: You laugh at all my jokes. Is that too self-centered? Let me think of something that’s about YOU. Oh I know . . . YOU get ME great gifts, and when I come over, you always get that cheese that I like.
Candis: You overlook my shortcomings and see the best parts of me; I love your deep desire to find the sweet spot in every person.
D: Well now I feel like I should have said something deeper about you. Let’s get deep now.
2. What was my worst fashion phase?
C: It’s a toss-up. Your early Vancouver days: Acrylic nails, yellow boots, that orange leather jacket with shoulder pads. Or the Seattle phase: Home highlighting kit--done in a chunking technique to create a bird-like effect. D: You: The Ramones concert. Circa ‘95. You had a pixie cut died grey (how was that even chemically possible?) with a daisy-patterned short jumpsuit. And black, ripped stockings. It was even too much for Joey Ramone.
3. You don’t know . . .
C: How relieved I am that we have the same ruling planet! Being that in sync is so comforting.
D: How much I need you. “Desperately” would be accurate. Or, how much of a true beauty you are.
4. You’re the best in the world at . . .
D: Healing people by making things beautiful for them. You’re also incredibly optimistic--even tho’ I don’t think you see yourself as that way, but you are.
C: Creating a space & asking the right questions.
5. Best laugh . . .
C & D: The $1.99 face mask!!!!! D: There are so many legendary laughs. No one will get them tho’, so let’s move on.
6. If it weren’t for you . . .
C: I would still be lying about my age, embellishing stories, and trying to be someone I am not.
D: I’d be on meds.
7. When you die . . .
C: We both have always known that I am going first. So come and find me. I will have the place ready for you. Pillows fluffed, tea on. I will show you around, and I will be so happy to be back together.
D: I’m going to make sure they burn incense and play some Melody Gardot at your funeral. And we’re taking you out in a pickup truck with a wreath of lavender on the grill. I’ve got the whole thing planned.
8. Do you remember the time . . .
D: We drove eight hours to Texas for pizza and then came straight back?
C: We decided to be vegetarians and went out for a farewell burger?
D: You washed my kitchen floors--on your knees--after the baby came?
C: We skipped work and got our first tattoos from the guy with the Chihuahua and the Harley? D: You so would have gone home with him.
C: Damn straight.
9. What’s the best advice I ever gave you?
C: Never wear houndstooth. And - eat one more doughnut, then . . . go green! We don't judge each other. We just roll with it. That's why it's so awesome.
D: You told me to stay, when it was good to stay. Go, when it was good to go. You always know what's best for my heart--and that what's best has cycles. C: And you always tell me to BUY THE CASHMERE.
D: True. And use the whole tub of feta for the Greek salad. It's all about the cheese.
C: Allll about the cheese.
10. The world needs to know that . . .
C: Your heart drives all that you do.
D: a) Your mother didn’t know how to spell “Candace” when you were born, so that’s why you’re “Candis.” Ten points for you-neek-ness! b) You’re deeply accepting of how things are. Which would make you pretty close to enlightened in my book.