Comfort zones, truth telling — and by the way, I'm no guru
Here’s what happens when I do a speaking gig. Every time. I try to dispense some luminous #truthbomb and how-to advice -- because that’s what I’m there to do. Such as, “Reframe your obligations into conscious choices and it will liberate your self-agency.” Or... "What you stop doing is just as important to your success as what you start doing.” I also like to mention that some devotional or stillness practice is essential to mental health and intuitive capacities. And if I’m feeling extra feisty I end up working in something about orgasms and money (they are related).
And then someone stands up, and with earnest irritation and respect, they say something in the flavour of, “But I DO have obligations...” "But I AM busy...” “But I get really UNCOMFORTABLE when I get still... so now what do you suggest?"
Here’s what I used to do... I’d scramble a bit. I’d try to keep the energy up and encouraging. I’d try to rock out one more wisdom nugget to shed light, provide comfort and look infinitely wise. I could feel myself spin out a bit, away from my center. (I noticed that answering those "But NOW what?" questions was one of the few times I'd lose my train of thought on stage.)
What I wanted to say was this:
"For the Love, Love. I can't solve all your problems from up here (in fact, I can't solve any of them). Go easy on me. And, newsflash: Life is really really hard and I never said this consciousness shiz was easy. You gotta work for it, babe."
And, that's pretty much my response nowadays, delivered with sincere lightness and Love. Because it's the truth. And I'd rather be me — the human me in great shoes — than tap dance for the price of admission. And you know...
The truth always leads to the light. So just say it.
I WATCHED MY SISTERS TRUTH-TELL AND TOOK NOTES
It's like my friend Gabby Bernstein asks when someone tells her they don't have time to meditate. Gab says, “Well, do you have time to feel like shit?” Kinda gets the point across, don't it? Kris Carr was talking about the benefits of juicing and low alkaline living — as in, it could SAVE YOUR LIFE, and the woman she was advising said, “But I don’t like the texture of smoothies, and I don't... and I don't... so what should I do then?” I can read Krissy’s mind by now, and I knew she wanted to wrangle down that lady with her microphone cord. “Well..." Kris said, looking her in the eye, "I guess that’s why it’s called being a 'Wellness WARRIOR,' huh?”
And that's about right.