Our whole lives are relationships. Belly laughs—the ones you remember years afterwards when you're driving down a quiet road by yourself or comparing your dim day to the shine of your past—those belly laughs only happen with friends.Read More
I've talked to rabbis, and priests, and monks, and people who I consider to be high esoteric practitioners. I’ve figured out a few things about joy… and I’ve woven them into this week’s episode of LIGHT WORK.Read More
You know her. Maybe you are her. Or you were. Sisters, please don’t become her. Sisters (and brothers), let’s heal her. She’s giving up on love and life. Sometime, as a result of having to try too hard to get her very essential Soul needs met she… just… got… worn…down. She had no choice but to stiffen. Then she realized that she had a choice.Read More
Let go of things you think you cherish. A waitress at dinner complimented my friend on her earrings. My very cool friend left the earrings with the tab. I bet that small act rocked the waitress’ world. How much do you really need your stuff? Sometimes we hold onto things for the “principle”. Like say, your bestie loves all things owls but you’re holding on to that owl-embroidered smock that you never wear because your aunt made it. Give it.Read More
Why would you want to delay gratification? Within the constraints of morality and maturity, you should do whatever you need to do to feel gratified in the moment. It may be as subtle as choosing a more positive thought or reminding yourself to smile. Maybe it’s taking two minutes in your car or at your desk to do nothing but fantasize. Maybe instant gratification is fifty sit-ups for an adrenaline rush, ordering dessert first, giving an unexpected hug, signing the lease, or telling your boss to shove it.Read More
Be the one who blesses. Generously. Everywhere. Don't wait to be pronounced a saint, or ordained and rarified. (You have to die for that to happen anyway.)Read More
CREATIVITY. CADENCE. CORE DESIRED FEELINGS. What it takes to make good stuff in the world. Notice when your dream has come true. If you're addicted to accomplishing things, you might miss the fact that you've actually accomplished something pretty awesome.
You probably have notebooks of ideas. You may have ideas you haven't told anyone about. There are ideas that the cosmos is waiting to tell YOU about it. Stop. Shhh. Did you hear that? It's your next big idea. Stay still long enough and you'll hear how to make it happen.
Our whole lives are relationships. Belly laughs -- the ones you remember years afterwards when you're driving down a quiet road by yourself or comparing your dim day to the shine of your past -- those belly laughs only happen with friends.Read More
The next opportunity to meet, to work, to dine, to interact, to kiss, to speak, to spend, to serve (no matter how shiny, sexy, lucrative, coveted, necessary, obligatory or useful it may seem), ask yourself this: Will I have to shrink to make this work? Or Is this a place where I can expand?Read More