The fear-driven questions of human interaction...
What will they think of me? I better do what will make me look good.
What do they expect of me? I better give them what they want, when they want it.
What can I get from them? I better be clever to get what I want.
Is this moving me forward?
Do I feel more like myself?
Does this feel expansive or contracting?
How can I be generous here?
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