Open hearts, not taking any shit, and Qs for commitment. A round-up of my most-read posts of last year.

I never know what will hit and what will miss when I hit "publish." Actually, I try not to think about it too much and just let it pour. Here are a few pieces that filled some boots n' hearts last year. With love.

1. “Open, gentle heart. Big fucking fence.” The advice I give on Love that took the longest time to learn.

This was a long coming revelation that had me eating fire and offering my bleeding, mighty, devoted heart over to the Goddess. It was the Initiation of All Initiations to realize that Love (me…I) required protection in order to go beyond existing and to thrive. This divine dichotomy saved my life:

Protect your heart so you can keep it wide open. T W E E T

2. The difference between happiness & joy. And why it helps to know.

You can get fired, dumped, dumped on, and pulled through the eye of a needle, and still feel held by the container of joy — the truth of your existence... When you see joy beside the agony, you have the keen vision of a soul warrior.

Happiness is like rising bubbles -- delightful and inevitably fleeting. Joy is the oxygen -- ever present. T W E E T

3. One night stands and other sacred containers not always meant to be breached.

Sometimes, you cry in a stranger’s arms precisely because they are a stranger. You let your secrets be witnessed because the witnesses are outside of your every day reality. You get spiritually naked because it’s a moment that’s only ever going to be a moment. You dance like no one is watching because they won’t see you again. One night stands — sexual, spiritual, emotional — can serve a divine purpose.

4. Leaving the Church of Self Improvement – A Special Feature

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Spiritual passion can become punishing when it arises from the hollowness of our psyches rather than the fullness of our Souls. I think we spend much of our lives dancing in the valley of striving and peace.

Striving from a sense of deficiency only fuelled an obsession with self-improvement that kept me running in circles right ’round what I was looking for: the pulsating, nourishing place of my true nature, which is the doorway to fulfilling all my desires.

5. Skin, joy, boobs, and the right hair colour: My random & rarely dispensed beauty notes

I get solid sleep, eat clean and green (almost no processed foods), and try to dance almost every day (kitchen funk parties for the win), and really move my ass a few times a week (I’ve got an elliptical and I actually use it). Also, hot water & lemon every morning, and lots of enzyme face masks.

6. Want to get unstuck? Maybe it’s time to stop analyzing it.

You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman. You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it). You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck. Instead of focusing on how you got to where you are, you’ve got to shift your attention to where you’d rather be.

Too much analysis can create paralysis. T W E E T

7. Unconscious acceptance. Which is to say, What shit are you putting up with?

What are you “accepting” right now because it’s the ethical thing to do, or the harmonious way to go? Ethics, harmony, real love — so divine. So much goodness can go in the “healthy acceptance” category. But…What on your “tolerance list” is lifting your life up, vs. what’s weighing it down? What occasions of acceptance are expanding your being with love, vs. what’s making you quietly resentful? When do you feel freedom rush in because you’re accepting the way someone/something is, and when do you feel muffled? Love is a great complexity so it’s not always that black or white, but sometimes it is. Go there.

Here’s the spiritual bottom-line: Take less shit. T W E E T

8. 8 questions to ask yourself before committing to a goal (or a person, or anything for that matter).

If you’re gripped to a certain goal — “do or die goals,” it’s easier to fool yourself about the merits of that goal.

There are goals that expand our truth, and goals that constrict it…

Look within before you aim without. T W E E T